Beliefs ... Money VS No money , Happiness VS no happiness

        Beliefs ...honoring ...non-honoring ???

What is a belief ? Beliefs are  words that you keep telling yourself over and over and over again until it becomes your truth your life.

The challenging part of a belief is if your NOT living the life you want, you have to take a long look at your belief system . Something is out of alinement . 

At a very young age we all are taking in the people around us belief systems . Sometimes that's great, other times it is what's stopping you from living a fabulous life.

Example: a client of mine grew up in a family that believed having too much money was a sin. Guess what no matter what she did she was unable to increase her income. 

Tanya grew up believing all the women in her family would get breast cancer .

Michael grew up believing that he would be heavy because all the people in his family are over weight. 

A belief is extremely powerful and can actually change your DNA . Lots of medical proof out there to prove this . ( check out "Biology of belief" by Bruce Lipton micro biologist)

So how can you change a belief ? I think of it like training   a horse or a dog. It doesn't happen over night. You have to know what result you'd like example : Health, confidence, love, more freedom in your life. 

Goal to get Asia to relax . Notice position of her body, neck is tight, she's taking little steps .

 

Asia neck is still tight, she's a little more relaxed.

Look at Asia here. Isn't that pretty? It took Allie 30 minutes of warm up to get her relaxed and moving softly.

 

 

The above photos of Asia is to give you a visual of what can happen in your life when you practise what you want and believe it can be true.

   With practise and a knowing yes you can change a belief. Here's a few How to...

1) Pick one belief to work on at a time 

2) Dedicate 15- 30 minutes daily to work on new belief.

3) Write about the new belief you'd like to be experiencing. example money. Write down how you feel about money , how much money you'd like to be allowing into your life . Can money easily flow into your life?  

4) Each day for 30 days write down the first word that comes to your mind when you think of having a flow of money? example: Frustration, fear , freedom , anticipation, joy etc.

5) Write journal about that word for 15 - 30 minutes until you feel a sense of relief in you. 

 What the above exercise does is create possibility for your unconscious mind . A great book to read is by Greg Kuhn " beliefs".

Embrace being in the driver seat of your life. When you begin to see the change in your life you want to live, life is incredible!

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

Do You Dance, Sing to your Own Drum? Path to Inner Freedom

   Do You Dance, Sing to your Own Drum? 

             The Path to Inner Freedom

Shadow , He represents understanding the light and dark from with in.

 

 

What does it mean to dance and  sing to your own inner drum ? Each on of us is born with our own inner guidance system which we call our soul , inner knowing or perhaps intuition .

Allow your self to delight in watching a young child and how they navigate their day. Can you remember when you were 3 or 4? A baby has their own Rhythm, we each do, it's whether we acknowledge and honor that piece of our self . Or do you allow others, society to tell you what to belief or who you are. 

From my own family and clients I  have observed lots of experiences the last few weeks offering them all an opportunity to step into a greater version of them selves . Yes life can be extremely challenging but the knowledge and self growth and what you do with that information strengthens , weakens  or changes the foundation of your life.  

You have two choices be your own care giver , take responsibility , learn and grow from the experience . In the moment its hard to see the rainbow or the end of the tunnel , ask yourself how can I go with the flow , how can I get to a better feeling? What would my prefect day be ? Keep that vision ,  feeling and trust you. You do have all the answers with in YOU!

Second option is to be the victim and blame the world. Keep saying what else can go wrong and I guarantee it will.  What you do know in playing the victim role your foundation will stay weak and over time will be washed away like the storms at sea carrying away the sand . 

Rohan ( Inner power) Willie ( Go for it attitude )

 

Here's an example of dancing to your own drum. Changing the clocks each spring and fall doesn't work for me . I have one clock in my house and it's on Lisa time ...I've done this for the past couple of decades...This Sunday when the clock goes ahead one hour my time stays the same . This wouldn't work for everyone but it works for me. What relief that brings to my life.

I have a client that struggles with age , very simple solution she can be what ever age she wants to be. Does her new way of thinking drive some folks nuts , you beat it does , who cares , she's not harming anyone , Right?...She is creating her own belief system what works for her. Yes she is dancing to her own drum, plus she looks younger, healthier, and is happier which allows her to be a kinder person in the world . Win win situation in my world.

I encourage you to begin dancing to your own drum, enjoy the inner freedom and love you will BE experiencing.  

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa 

 

How do You Experience and express Love???

          How do YOU Experience & Express                                   Love ???

Josie & Fiona 

 There are so many different ways we each experience how we give and receive love .  
In my personal experience and with the clients I work with it's vital that we know how we experience love and how folks closest to us experience love.

I good detector that you need to understand yourself more is being disappointed at the holidays, in romantic relationships,  frustrated with family and friends or you find relationships exhausting. 

If you know what you need that you're able to express it. Very few people can read our minds :)

Lance and Monty

How do you need to experience love?

 Kinesthetic - Means your a hands on learner , touch helps you learn . In a relationship hugs , kisses , holding hands are very important , presents , flowers, spending time. Being active with the people in your life, perhaps  walks , hikes , horse back riding , skiing, painting etc. Feelings need to be expressed and acknowledged . Can become very emotional.

Auditory -  Hearing ; words said are very important, talking , having meaningful communication. Expressing verbally how you feel and having people express how they feel . Auditory people need to hear lots of " I love you" " I adore you" " I so enjoy being with you because ____________________.

Visual-  You experience life from how you see it .  Men tend to get the wrap for being visual but so are women.  Here's an example . A client of mine changed her hair color , her partner is visual and the hair color changed how he responded to her .    Please no judging this . They talked about it, she went back to her original hair color. 2nd example , client was attracted to her husband because she liked all his muscles , when he stopped working out it affected how she was attracted to him. 

We are usually a combination of 2 of  the above to different degrees . We are attracted to our partners based on how we experiecne life. Please communicate with your partner so you each  are aware of what the other one needs. There is no right or wrong, it's just how it is. 

Linda ( Client ) gets up set on her Birthday and valentines day every year . She is a combination equally of all three. Linda felt if her partner truly loved her , he'd tell (auditory)her he loved her and why he did, wrap her present in beautiful paper with ribbon ( visual) , how it was wrapped was more important then what was in it  ( it's the experience ).  Shower her with a huge hug and passionate kiss ( Kinesthetic) and hold her hand on the way into restaurant. Linda desired lots of TLC and to feel (kinesthetic) special.

Greg ( Linda's partner) Is Auditory . Greg doesn't understand why Linda gets so emotional ( Kinesthetic) on her Birthday, Valentines Day, it's very frustarting to him and he dreads these two days because no matter what he does he's wrong. Whats the big Deal. He tells her he loves her how can she not hear ( auditory)that. 
 
 

Monty & Shadow

Linda can hear what Greg is saying , but she needs the kinesthetic and visual needs met too. Once Linda was able to express to Greg what she needed , how to, and why ,Greg was able to do that for her . Both their needs are being met and they're able to have a more loving , caring , honoring relationship. 

May you take time to really get to know and love you so your able to express what you desire and need to others.
Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

 

Relationships? Single VS Married; Married VS Single

        Relationships ? Single Vs Married ; Married vs Single

This is my back yard

My parents married 51 years

I always wanted the fairy tale wedding, get married live happily ever after with my prince. I believe I had that experience for a very short time then all the dysfunction we each were raised with hit us head on like a freight train going 200 miles an hour, plus self-doubt, habits, beliefs and values that weren’t mine, I didn’t know what mine were. I think we most have watched different Cinderella’s.  Our marriage came to a very abusive end.

The blessing in it all it that the failure of marriage ignited a fire in my soul for knowledge , learning , discovery I knew life was meant to be joyful, no one needed to be controlled , I truly believed that  if I could reconnect with the spirit that I had as a child I could do anything.  I was determined to learn, love myself more than I thought possible, and become an incredible mentor to my children. I didn’t want my children repeating my mistakes, or relatives. They could learn from my mistakes and they could learn a lot from watching me create a new life for us.

I’ve been single for 12 years and the past two years it has bothered me that I’m not remarried. Majority of my women friends are married. I was sharing with them over lunch last week that I was a bit envious of them for being married. How wonderful that there was always someone there for them.  Living on a horse ranch without a man is really hard work, some days I think I’m crazy doing this all alone. They all started to laugh because their envious of my life and all the freedom I have.  I always do what I want to do. Yes you can be married and lonely. We really had a great conversation on married vs single life, lots of laughter and agreed it’s always greener on the opposite side of the fence.   When I returned home greeted by the dogs and horses I was reminded once again at how much I do love the life I live. 

Phlaggston -We've been together 18 years

The horses in my life have always been my best teachers along with my kids. Shadow (horse) has taught me to remove judgment and ask the question “Does this experience honor me? Does it feel good? What have I learned?  Am I living on auto pilot or being an active participant in my life? “ 

I wake up at 4am with a feeling that the automatic waters for the horses weren’t working. Its -3 outside and the wind was blowing so hard.  I know to always trust my feelings, inner voice, and intuition. I Go outside and intuition was right horse waters are frozen.  It Took me three hours to get a water trough hooked up and working for the herd.  Carrying buckets of water to 14 horses would consume most of my day, not an option.

I started to talk out loud and ask for help to whom or whatever cared or was listening. A few moments later a picture came into my mind of putting water into the waterier, and putting the metal lid from the feed bin over the hole of the waterier.

Off to finish evening chores I was so frustrated due to the horses getting the lid off the waterier. Then I thought what if it was working again. Yes, it was working. I looked to the sky and yelled thank you! I feeling of peace consumed me. I realized and felt a presence with in me, around me and I finally understood I am never alone; this is how it feels to be truly connected. The relationship I have been seeking was really with me and Spirit. I gave thanks again and revisited all my thoughts for getting water to the horses.  What we think and feel determines our outcomes .

1)      I only talked about how to get the waterier  working

2)      I listed all the reason why the waterier  needed to work  in my head

3)      I asked for help

4)      I was open to receiving  a solution to get water to the horses

5)      I wouldn’t allow any other thoughts into my head, only what I needed

6)      I kept my focus on waterier working, the relief and joy that would bring me.

Being single or married is a learning experience; both have their purpose and rewards. The relationship to self, loving you, caring for you allows you to have healthier relationships in your life; you are filling your own cup and are responsible for you.  May my experience encourage you to be mindful of your thoughts and master the art of knowing self and the peace of being connected brings you.  Nature is wise a teacher.

Health*JOY*prosperity…Peace…Lisa

The New Year , A clean slate

               The New Year ; A Clean Slate

Both Photos are of different sections of our driveway . The driveway to the ranch is close to 1/2 mile from the road . I love the seclusion , peace that offers me. Isn't it beautiful ? Look at that blue sky . When I look out and see just the snow I said to myself "Lisa 2015 is a few days away , its a fresh new year like the snow , what is it that my heart and  soul want to experience"? 

What do you think my answer to my self was? 
1) Live  the Divine Feminine / Goddess energy every day and embrace being female.
2) Be in-lined with receiving more prosperity that flows constantly in to my life.
3) Be able to be more compassionate , loving to the world and all that live on it. 
4) To have a relationship with a man that would enhance everything above .
 When I read these sentences I am filled with such joy I start to  tremble inside .
  STOP !!!
I shared my dream for 2015 , I allowed myself to be vunerable to me and you, now get a beautiful piece of paper , take 5 deep inhales and exhales and ask your heart and soul what do I really truly want to experience and live this year ? The thought of having it chokes you up and you may feel very emotional. Too many times in life we forget we have a soul , there is a bigger purpose or not. Allow yourself time to figure out what that is . The end rewards will bring you much joy, health and over flowing peace.

Tuck -  teaches us all about being in touch with our inner child and having FUN!

Where is this all going? You'll find out.  
Back to the driveway. I decide it's such a beautiful day , I need exercise, I'm going to shovel the driveway by myself . Oh what fun it will be.  I started by the house for about 40 minutes , then thought perhaps there is less snow up by the gate . 90 minutes have passed I'm feeling overwhelmed " How will I do this? " " call Jack!" "I can do this?" "call Jack!" I finally made the call to my neighbor Jack to please come and plow the driveway. It was so worth the money I spent. How does this snow shoveling and calling Jack relate to setting goals for the New Year.  

Have you heard that phrase "Be careful of what you ask for" . 
You can set your goals and if you are  100% committed to achieving them they may fall into place IF you have done all your self work / exploration / discovery around the experience you've set your intention on.
 In my case in regards to the relationship goal, I haven't learned all I needed to know in order to have a healthy relationship . Today what I didn't know about me brought my whole world tumbling down for part of the day . I cried, called a close girl friend , pulled myself up by my boot straps and spent a few hours contemplating how a piece of my child hood , a belief I had from back then is stopping me from having a relationship and getting my book published . I identified what I needed to change. I have a huge tool box of skills plus colleagues I can call on to help with my action steps and learning's. I am totally emotionally exhausted at the moment BUT I know the change has to start with me , I am replacing that old belief with one that honors  the divine feminine with in me. 
If we keep doing and believing the same we keep getting the same result, if it's honoring and your dreams are happening YES keep it up and spread your know how. If your dream keeps getting farther away from you,  frustration , sadness,  etc are filling your life , it's time for a change , it's worth it! Yes you become a role model to inspire others .

1)Fallen snow represents a clean slate , new beginning.
2) Shoveling represents the excitement of the new BUT the excitement wheres out when difficulty sets in and your not experiencing the results you want.
3) Jack plowing driveway represents reaching out , getting help , empowering yourself  , learning a new skill, learn a new way, reading self help book, etc.

 I am so thankful to have had my driveway plowed. Jack will always plow when we have 2" or more of snow. What will you need to do differently in order to experience your 2015 goals and dreams? It's 110% worth it! As you write your list of new year resolutions please make notes of who or what resources you have available to you to ensure your success. Where can you obtain new resources? Visit your local book store or library , start an empowerment group , BE it!!! 

Have a question, Please ask? 
May 2015 bring you overflowing amounts of Health*JOY*prosperity*LOVE...Peace...Lisa 

 


 
 
 

Food*Stress*Hungry - Emotional eating

                  Food * Stress * Hungry

Cisco

Willie

 What does Cisco and Willie have in common .
1) They are both the newest ponies to the herd
2) They are both so loved by us , friends and clients
3)  They both need a job on the ranch
4)  They both love to eat all the time
5) They both will do anything to get to food; they'll break fences ,put their heads through the fence to take grain,
beg for food, you name it they will try it. Plus they are so smart.

Cisco and Willie can be a reflection of what happens to folks regarding over indulgence of food. The horses and my clients teach me so much , and I like to pass on my lessons and learning's .
 

Willie

 What Cisco and Willie can teach us regarding eating habits
1) When your in a new surroundings it can be uncomfortable which can lead to eating when not hungry, or choosing foods which I call comfy foods that are high in fat , sugar or salt. They satisfy a person at the moment but after the fact your body feels terrible , the heart is sad , and the mind starts the negative talk .

2) Feelings of loneliness especially during the holiday brings on eating binges. One keeps eating trying to find a food that will satisfy the longing for companionship. The more one try's to fill that emptiness the worse one feels. It truly is a bottomless hole.

3) Boredom causes eating with out purpose . One eats to pass the time.

4) A person is consumed with what they will eat for dinner , breakfast even when eating a meal. 

What we all know for a fact is Stress causes weight gain even if your eating healthy food . I have experienced this is my own life. Now add , dark days to the equation, less than 7 hours of sleep a night, lack of joy & love for self, folks are over worked, perhaps you have become a slave to your children, every where you look or hear there are unhealthy choices of  food to eat, what is a person to do???    

Learn new skills to get your life back in harmony . 
Here a some helpful hits 
a) Hire a coach (me- I know my stuff :) )
b) Be gentle with yourself
c) Make a list of all that situations that cause you to eat when not hungry. Next to each trigger write down what you'd like to do instead. Example 3pm you hit a wall, your exhausted, old habit is eating a candy bar. New habit you start taking an adrenal support and go for a 5-10 minute walk outside. FYI this is my trick for me.
d) Make a meal that will last for four days . My kids hate this, but it encourages them to make a meal if they don't want to eat chili and salad on day 4, and it stops me from buying take out . win / win . 
e) Most importantly eat at least one meal a day as a family . Remind each other to slow down and enjoy what the food tastes like and each others company . Saying a prayer raises the vibration of your food.  Everyone helps , if I cook kids clean , kids cook I clean. If your single invite your friends over for dinner perhaps start a dinner exchange . See how creative you can be.
f) BE very mindful before eating , ask yourself am I hungry , be sure you know what hungry feels like. If your not hungry what emotion do you need to address .  Your body ALWAYS talks to you, please hear it!
g) Carry healthy snacks with you , nuts , protein, veggies, fruit, don't leave home with out them.

Take action in your life. You know if you keep doing the same thing you'll keep getting the same result . No judging yourself , life is an experience , enjoy , laugh, learn , explore , let go , keep your focus on YOU! Who cares what every one else is doing, this is your life, live it for you my friend,

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

PS ... I mindfully choice the colors I pick in every blog ,  the capitalization and the...(dots)
If your an English major and I'm driving you crazy , let go and embrace the potential of the unknown, possibility and a different way :) 
 

Stress: is it a choice?

                        Stress is it a Choice?

Willie & Lance rough housing , Fiona & Josie choosing peace.

 

 Yes it is . Stress can be a good thing but too much of stress isn't . Stress can cause you to slow your metabolism, gain weight , lower immune system, raise your blood pressure . As my son Nick would say " not good".

This time of year can be challenging , YES challenges create opportunity's to grow .  What new skill can you learn to make this your best December?

Helpful Tips: 

*Know how much money is comfortable for you to spend this Holiday . 
Over spending is very stressful , putting gifts on a charge card that you aren't able to pay off in January can disturb your sleep too. Stick to a peaceful money budget. Play with the words you use till you find some that FEEL GOOD.

* Santa  brings one gift per person at our home , plus stockings.
One year my daughter received a refrigerator box filled with balloons from Santa cost $5, box free , used Uncle Johns air tank to fill them up , $5 balloons. She was the happiest three year old around.

*Make a list of everything you feel you have to do between now and January 2. Cut that list in half, Now pick the top three and keep your focus on them . 
I started doing above 11 years ago it has given me the freedom to enjoy the holidays so much more. 

* If some one tells me NO buying me a gift , I respect that . No gift.
How much stuff do we need? I like giving the gift of time or service. I so enjoy when I receive a beautiful package from my kids upon opening are certificates ( they make them) good for 1 cleaning of house , 7 days of chores,  day of errands , etc. Great idea for grandparents , friends, neighbors.    

*Who can you and your family help?
As a family we talk about who do we know that needs help ? When my children were little I'd ask them do you want a gift from me or would you rather we take that money and help...
It feels really good to help , they always choice help. In honesty my youngest would say it feels good to receive too can I get a smaller gift from you instead of_____________ and help.

This is the season of welcoming back the light , Birth ,ideas , possibilities, growth , celebration for a new year &____________. Getting in touch with the child with in you.
Being with the people we love or getting to know someone new. 
What is the true meaning of Jesus to you ___________________?

What is Santa teaching you _________________?

May you find peace in your soul , love in your heart, twinkle in your eyes this December! 
Merry Christmas & Happy New year!
Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

Lance: Moving forward in life, Willie : allowing possibility to come to you, Fiona: LOVE