Going for it VS Self Doubt: work , Relationships , Goals , Self Growth

                      Going For it VS Self Doubt

Take a leap of Faith

In life sometimes we need to just take a leap of faith like Asia in the above picture and just trust . Much easier said than done . 

Perhaps your in a relationship that your unsure of, your work is exhausting, or your just wondering how did I ever get here? This isn't the life I've signed up for . Perhaps you are living an excellent live and ready to take it one step higher. 

 What is the one thing in your life that you want to experience right now? Think it , say it , write it down.

Read it back to yourself, yes out loud. How does that make you feel? Do you believe it ?  What will happen in your life once you have that experience ? What will happen if you don't have that experience? 

We get what we focus on, put our attention to, feel, and energy towards. Example your wanting to have an incredible life long relationship with that special someone or fulfilling work.

Do you?

1) Know the qualities of the person/work your willing to  allow into your life?

2) Can you visualize every detail of that person /work?

3) Have you found forgiveness for past hurts and let go of non-honoring experiences?

4) How are you feeling when you think of having that person/work in your life? 

5) Do you believe its possible to have an incredible relationship/ work?

6) Do you know what you want and know it will come to you?

or do you Sabotage a relationship/work by thinking;

1) All the good ones, people or jobs are taken.

2) My ex/employer did...focus on the past negative experiences.

3) Focus on what could go wrong?

4) Keep your mind filled with non-honoring self talk?

5) Ask yourself "what is wrong with me " ?

6) Keep checking online dating site to see if that person is on line ? Asking co-workers what your boss thinks of you?

Fiona teaching a client how to Allow an experience in, what it feels like. ( Equine Human connection)

 Lance teaching client how her thoughts and emotions push him away( Equine Human Connection)

What you are living is a movie picture of your belief system. If your full attention is going  toward " going for it" you'll get it if you believe it, keep your attention on it. Looking forward to how it will come into your life, yes being thankful.

If your filled with self doubt you will bring that experience to you as well. 

May you fully  release past hurts to allow room for possibility.

Next blog will be on How to Create a honoring  belief system .

The horses and I empower folks to understand how your beliefs, thoughts, feelings bring experiences into your life. 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

 

What does Conscious mean? Regarding Life? Relationships? Joy?

What Does Conscious Mean? Regarding Life? Relationships? Joy?

Horses are excellent at teaching humans about consciousness 

This past week it seemed everything I read had the word conscious in it and I asked my self the question what does this all mean? I have been teaching and studying the Conscious / unconscious mind for the past decade. I am completely intrigued with how our mind can empower or sabotage an idea , thought , relationship all with in one second. 

When you are conscious you are 100% present and engaged in your thought , activity , conversation.  All your energy is focused , you have a knowing and an awareness. Your completely in tuned to what your feeling , seeing and hearing. 

What does this have to do with life ? EVERYTHING! If your desiring to have a more meaningful relationship, or joy in your life learning to be conscious , aware of what you want to be experiencing. The key phrase here is wanting to BE experiencing. You know what you have experienced , when you spent time flash backing , talking about the past, your keeping your self in the past. A thought  is  energy , a  pattern  your sending out into the world to bring you more of that thought.  

Conscious living requires learning to be aware of the  thought you are thinking, being able to stop your thought instantly and create a new one.  Remember when you learned a new activity perhaps riding a bike , horse or driving a car, all your attention went to what you were learning. 

Your desiring more joy in your live ask yourself
1) What makes me happy ? 
2) How do I feel Joy?
3) What does happy look like? 

Now the fun part begins, place  all your attention , focus , yes your consciously living on allowing joy into your life . As you allow opportunities of happiness to easily gravitate toward you, Please be sure to acknowledge and appreciate the moment and be fully engaged . Here's an example of being present ,  your walking down the side walk and you notice a couple holding hands and laughing on steps as you pass them. 

Your conscious living when 
1) You smile because you look forward to experiencing a relationship that is caring.
2) Your thankful for observing and acknowledging a experience you'd like to have .
3) You noticed the flowers in the pot and were curious about what the orange flowers were.
4) You begin to be aware of all the beauty that surrounds you . 
5) Your aware of experiences that feel terrible , experiences that feel better, experiences that feel magnificent. 

Freedom( horse) teaches how freedom feels in your body . " Equine Human Connection"

  

 
 
 
 6) Your Being in the moment , your attention is on this instant in time .

Conscious living does require time to master but the rewards are so worth it. Just for today please be aware of every word you say and how it makes you feel. Over time majority of your words will be honoring of the new experiences you'll be creating and living . Enjoy you!

Willie teaches a client about how allowing feels in her body -" Equine Human Connection" 

( Coaching with horses )

 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

 
 

Defining Relationship with Self / Others: What Happiness and Sadness Teach us

   Defining Relationships with Self /Others

               What Happiness and Sadness Teach Us

 

Willie teaches us about allowing opportunity into our lives 

 You can only bring into your life from where you are right now. What does that me ? If your a Happy person you'll be able to bring happy people into your life. If your a sad person you'll bring sad people into your life. We can only receive what we send out, which is called vibrations. 

What ever relationship you have with yourself that is the relationship you will draw to your experience / life. 

If your sad be thankful for that experience its  your soul communicating with your emotional body/heart  . Yes we do have emotions for a reason. Now what do you do with that information? You can continue to do what your doing , being ,and you know for a fact the sadness will continue. Or you can ask yourself " How can I be  happy"?"What makes me happy"?

This past week the horses and  I have  hosted numerous workshops. What surprised me the most when I'd ask the question "What do you want "? No one could answer that question. This is a question I'd like you to ask yourself every day and please answer yourself. This is your life , make it a fabulous life overflowing with love and Joy. 

 

 When your happy that's your soul telling you your on the correct path , keep up the JOY! 

 Remember how it feels to fall in love? What happens? Your all smiles,  all the wonderful  sensations that go through your body , metabolism speeds up, you need less sleep and the world is such a happier place . Your body is talking to you isn't it? What if you could love YOU that much ? Imagine how beautiful your life could be very day . 

May you give yourself the gift of knowing you and hearing your soul. 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

Willie teaches us about allowing while Lance teaches us about moving forward

 

Beliefs ... Money VS No money , Happiness VS no happiness

        Beliefs ...honoring ...non-honoring ???

What is a belief ? Beliefs are  words that you keep telling yourself over and over and over again until it becomes your truth your life.

The challenging part of a belief is if your NOT living the life you want, you have to take a long look at your belief system . Something is out of alinement . 

At a very young age we all are taking in the people around us belief systems . Sometimes that's great, other times it is what's stopping you from living a fabulous life.

Example: a client of mine grew up in a family that believed having too much money was a sin. Guess what no matter what she did she was unable to increase her income. 

Tanya grew up believing all the women in her family would get breast cancer .

Michael grew up believing that he would be heavy because all the people in his family are over weight. 

A belief is extremely powerful and can actually change your DNA . Lots of medical proof out there to prove this . ( check out "Biology of belief" by Bruce Lipton micro biologist)

So how can you change a belief ? I think of it like training   a horse or a dog. It doesn't happen over night. You have to know what result you'd like example : Health, confidence, love, more freedom in your life. 

Goal to get Asia to relax . Notice position of her body, neck is tight, she's taking little steps .

 

Asia neck is still tight, she's a little more relaxed.

Look at Asia here. Isn't that pretty? It took Allie 30 minutes of warm up to get her relaxed and moving softly.

 

 

The above photos of Asia is to give you a visual of what can happen in your life when you practise what you want and believe it can be true.

   With practise and a knowing yes you can change a belief. Here's a few How to...

1) Pick one belief to work on at a time 

2) Dedicate 15- 30 minutes daily to work on new belief.

3) Write about the new belief you'd like to be experiencing. example money. Write down how you feel about money , how much money you'd like to be allowing into your life . Can money easily flow into your life?  

4) Each day for 30 days write down the first word that comes to your mind when you think of having a flow of money? example: Frustration, fear , freedom , anticipation, joy etc.

5) Write journal about that word for 15 - 30 minutes until you feel a sense of relief in you. 

 What the above exercise does is create possibility for your unconscious mind . A great book to read is by Greg Kuhn " beliefs".

Embrace being in the driver seat of your life. When you begin to see the change in your life you want to live, life is incredible!

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

Do You Dance, Sing to your Own Drum? Path to Inner Freedom

   Do You Dance, Sing to your Own Drum? 

             The Path to Inner Freedom

Shadow , He represents understanding the light and dark from with in.

 

 

What does it mean to dance and  sing to your own inner drum ? Each on of us is born with our own inner guidance system which we call our soul , inner knowing or perhaps intuition .

Allow your self to delight in watching a young child and how they navigate their day. Can you remember when you were 3 or 4? A baby has their own Rhythm, we each do, it's whether we acknowledge and honor that piece of our self . Or do you allow others, society to tell you what to belief or who you are. 

From my own family and clients I  have observed lots of experiences the last few weeks offering them all an opportunity to step into a greater version of them selves . Yes life can be extremely challenging but the knowledge and self growth and what you do with that information strengthens , weakens  or changes the foundation of your life.  

You have two choices be your own care giver , take responsibility , learn and grow from the experience . In the moment its hard to see the rainbow or the end of the tunnel , ask yourself how can I go with the flow , how can I get to a better feeling? What would my prefect day be ? Keep that vision ,  feeling and trust you. You do have all the answers with in YOU!

Second option is to be the victim and blame the world. Keep saying what else can go wrong and I guarantee it will.  What you do know in playing the victim role your foundation will stay weak and over time will be washed away like the storms at sea carrying away the sand . 

Rohan ( Inner power) Willie ( Go for it attitude )

 

Here's an example of dancing to your own drum. Changing the clocks each spring and fall doesn't work for me . I have one clock in my house and it's on Lisa time ...I've done this for the past couple of decades...This Sunday when the clock goes ahead one hour my time stays the same . This wouldn't work for everyone but it works for me. What relief that brings to my life.

I have a client that struggles with age , very simple solution she can be what ever age she wants to be. Does her new way of thinking drive some folks nuts , you beat it does , who cares , she's not harming anyone , Right?...She is creating her own belief system what works for her. Yes she is dancing to her own drum, plus she looks younger, healthier, and is happier which allows her to be a kinder person in the world . Win win situation in my world.

I encourage you to begin dancing to your own drum, enjoy the inner freedom and love you will BE experiencing.  

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa 

 

How do You Experience and express Love???

          How do YOU Experience & Express                                   Love ???

Josie & Fiona 

 There are so many different ways we each experience how we give and receive love .  
In my personal experience and with the clients I work with it's vital that we know how we experience love and how folks closest to us experience love.

I good detector that you need to understand yourself more is being disappointed at the holidays, in romantic relationships,  frustrated with family and friends or you find relationships exhausting. 

If you know what you need that you're able to express it. Very few people can read our minds :)

Lance and Monty

How do you need to experience love?

 Kinesthetic - Means your a hands on learner , touch helps you learn . In a relationship hugs , kisses , holding hands are very important , presents , flowers, spending time. Being active with the people in your life, perhaps  walks , hikes , horse back riding , skiing, painting etc. Feelings need to be expressed and acknowledged . Can become very emotional.

Auditory -  Hearing ; words said are very important, talking , having meaningful communication. Expressing verbally how you feel and having people express how they feel . Auditory people need to hear lots of " I love you" " I adore you" " I so enjoy being with you because ____________________.

Visual-  You experience life from how you see it .  Men tend to get the wrap for being visual but so are women.  Here's an example . A client of mine changed her hair color , her partner is visual and the hair color changed how he responded to her .    Please no judging this . They talked about it, she went back to her original hair color. 2nd example , client was attracted to her husband because she liked all his muscles , when he stopped working out it affected how she was attracted to him. 

We are usually a combination of 2 of  the above to different degrees . We are attracted to our partners based on how we experiecne life. Please communicate with your partner so you each  are aware of what the other one needs. There is no right or wrong, it's just how it is. 

Linda ( Client ) gets up set on her Birthday and valentines day every year . She is a combination equally of all three. Linda felt if her partner truly loved her , he'd tell (auditory)her he loved her and why he did, wrap her present in beautiful paper with ribbon ( visual) , how it was wrapped was more important then what was in it  ( it's the experience ).  Shower her with a huge hug and passionate kiss ( Kinesthetic) and hold her hand on the way into restaurant. Linda desired lots of TLC and to feel (kinesthetic) special.

Greg ( Linda's partner) Is Auditory . Greg doesn't understand why Linda gets so emotional ( Kinesthetic) on her Birthday, Valentines Day, it's very frustarting to him and he dreads these two days because no matter what he does he's wrong. Whats the big Deal. He tells her he loves her how can she not hear ( auditory)that. 
 
 

Monty & Shadow

Linda can hear what Greg is saying , but she needs the kinesthetic and visual needs met too. Once Linda was able to express to Greg what she needed , how to, and why ,Greg was able to do that for her . Both their needs are being met and they're able to have a more loving , caring , honoring relationship. 

May you take time to really get to know and love you so your able to express what you desire and need to others.
Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

 

Relationships? Single VS Married; Married VS Single

        Relationships ? Single Vs Married ; Married vs Single

This is my back yard

My parents married 51 years

I always wanted the fairy tale wedding, get married live happily ever after with my prince. I believe I had that experience for a very short time then all the dysfunction we each were raised with hit us head on like a freight train going 200 miles an hour, plus self-doubt, habits, beliefs and values that weren’t mine, I didn’t know what mine were. I think we most have watched different Cinderella’s.  Our marriage came to a very abusive end.

The blessing in it all it that the failure of marriage ignited a fire in my soul for knowledge , learning , discovery I knew life was meant to be joyful, no one needed to be controlled , I truly believed that  if I could reconnect with the spirit that I had as a child I could do anything.  I was determined to learn, love myself more than I thought possible, and become an incredible mentor to my children. I didn’t want my children repeating my mistakes, or relatives. They could learn from my mistakes and they could learn a lot from watching me create a new life for us.

I’ve been single for 12 years and the past two years it has bothered me that I’m not remarried. Majority of my women friends are married. I was sharing with them over lunch last week that I was a bit envious of them for being married. How wonderful that there was always someone there for them.  Living on a horse ranch without a man is really hard work, some days I think I’m crazy doing this all alone. They all started to laugh because their envious of my life and all the freedom I have.  I always do what I want to do. Yes you can be married and lonely. We really had a great conversation on married vs single life, lots of laughter and agreed it’s always greener on the opposite side of the fence.   When I returned home greeted by the dogs and horses I was reminded once again at how much I do love the life I live. 

Phlaggston -We've been together 18 years

The horses in my life have always been my best teachers along with my kids. Shadow (horse) has taught me to remove judgment and ask the question “Does this experience honor me? Does it feel good? What have I learned?  Am I living on auto pilot or being an active participant in my life? “ 

I wake up at 4am with a feeling that the automatic waters for the horses weren’t working. Its -3 outside and the wind was blowing so hard.  I know to always trust my feelings, inner voice, and intuition. I Go outside and intuition was right horse waters are frozen.  It Took me three hours to get a water trough hooked up and working for the herd.  Carrying buckets of water to 14 horses would consume most of my day, not an option.

I started to talk out loud and ask for help to whom or whatever cared or was listening. A few moments later a picture came into my mind of putting water into the waterier, and putting the metal lid from the feed bin over the hole of the waterier.

Off to finish evening chores I was so frustrated due to the horses getting the lid off the waterier. Then I thought what if it was working again. Yes, it was working. I looked to the sky and yelled thank you! I feeling of peace consumed me. I realized and felt a presence with in me, around me and I finally understood I am never alone; this is how it feels to be truly connected. The relationship I have been seeking was really with me and Spirit. I gave thanks again and revisited all my thoughts for getting water to the horses.  What we think and feel determines our outcomes .

1)      I only talked about how to get the waterier  working

2)      I listed all the reason why the waterier  needed to work  in my head

3)      I asked for help

4)      I was open to receiving  a solution to get water to the horses

5)      I wouldn’t allow any other thoughts into my head, only what I needed

6)      I kept my focus on waterier working, the relief and joy that would bring me.

Being single or married is a learning experience; both have their purpose and rewards. The relationship to self, loving you, caring for you allows you to have healthier relationships in your life; you are filling your own cup and are responsible for you.  May my experience encourage you to be mindful of your thoughts and master the art of knowing self and the peace of being connected brings you.  Nature is wise a teacher.

Health*JOY*prosperity…Peace…Lisa