To Judge or NOT to Judge is the Question?

                          Judgement???

Asia on left teaches you about inner connection and power ; Shadow teaches you the importance of removing judgement and understanding how experiences make you feel.

Can you Believe It’s November? Lots going on at Free Spirit Ranch/ Be it Coaching. Arranging fencing for winter, bringing in hay , cleaning paddocks and staining gates . Plus enjoying all this fabulous weather we have been having. May you give yourself the gift of spending time every day outside breathing fresh air and stilling the mind .

I find it interesting how trends happen. This month the trend with “Equine Human Connection “ ( coaching with the horses and I) has been on removing judgement . What does that mean , or how is that possible , sounds crazy . Yes I agree removing judgement can be a bit confusing  due to  the amount of folks being raised  with an eye for an eye thought , thinking and feeling getting even will make you feel better, having justice. When I first started considering limiting  judgement from my life it was an enormous challenge . But , Shadow ( who is a rescue horse that lives at the ranch, his photo is in the attachment above)has gently taught me the importance of removing judgement , which has allowed freedom, lightness, stillness to flow into my life. 

Shadow

Shadow (Horse) and I have been introducing this thought to the folks we work with . I know from the results in my own life plus the clients I work with daily, this concept works.

When you remove judgement you set yourself free, you open yourself up to getting in touch with your instinct’s, internal guidance system, emotions and feelings. If you remove judgement you can ask yourself “Do I like how this feels” ? “Is this an experience I want to repeat”?  “  Does this experience honor me and the world” ?

It’s been proven through many studies that the average person has the same 60,000 thoughts a day . Yes this is called living on auto pilot . When you live on autopilot, with feelings turned off , keep doing what you’re doing, yes like a robot, you keep getting the same experiences, your predictable ,  and majority of the time begin to give up on your dreams, because you truly begin to believe what is the point . I have experienced this thought from observing my parents , family members, friends and clients. I do what I do because I know if you learn to master your thoughts, feelings and learn how to input information into the unconscious mind, a world of possibility is waiting for you. Living becomes so much fun, your health improves and joy begins to fill your life.

Everything in our world has a vibration from the smallest bug to the electricity that flows through your home . When you turn on your light switch the result you see is the light turning on. When you have a thought/feeling it’s just like that light that lights up the room, your thought/ feeling lights up, vibrates out form you . Example : I have a client Sophie she’s wanting to have more meaningful relationship with her husband . Sophie judges everything around her, Shadow ( horse) keeps all the other horses away from Sophie and pushes Sophie around gently giving her a visual of the vibration she is sending out. As Sophia complains about her husband a vibration leaves her body , keeping all the horses away from her, yes Shadow keeps pushing at her.

 I encouraged Sophie to begin to focus on how she wanted her relationship to BE. She began to tell me how she wanted their relationship to be , hope and calmness began to show on her face. Guess what happened YES the horses began to interact with her kindly.  Fiona ( Horse) came up to Sophie and gently touching her shoulder and hand. Fiona teaches us about love.  Sophie began to experience love from Fiona, she was able to communicate out loud how she wanted to give and receive love from her husband. Sophie was sending a vibration out for what she WANTED CONSCIOUSLY to give and receive. Yes her relationship is becoming more loving with her husband. Is it easy , physically yes, but mentally and emotionally it requires Sophie’s full focus and attention all the time. Sophie is getting off autopilot and becoming a conscious creator of her life. It’s similar to defrocking a computer , shocking a pool, rewiring a house, cleaning out a  closet , pulling the weeds from your garden.

  I believe in taking baby steps while learning anything new,  lots less pressure which equals success. Sophie decided to FOCUS on what she wanted to experience ,stopped judging her husband, If she became frustrated she’d acknowledge how she was feeling then ask herself “How would I rather feel “? We have a choice on how we feel about everything . I encourage each of you  beginning now to be aware of what you’re thinking , feeling and ask yourself where can I remove judgment and put the FOCUS on what I WANT !  Please let me know if this information has been helpful and how I can be of better service to you.

Opportunities : Free Spirit Ranch/Be it Coaching , Maiden Rock WI

November 13 & 20 , 2015: Group Mini work shop” Equine Human Connection”  2pm-5pm. You will leave experience with horses with a better understanding of how your thoughts , feelings effect your life and how to begin to master them. You will receive email with photos of your experience and a small written summary of your experiences with horses  . $100

November 14, 2015 : Reiki I , 10am-4pm ,people from all around the world are now taking an interest in Reiki, a form of hands on healing. Learn to balance your energy, release stress and, naturally lower your blood pressure. Promotes relaxation and over all well-being. Concentration is on wellness and releasing for physical body . Give yourself and your loved ones the gift of Reiki. Class includes certificate and manual $100.

November 15, 2015: Reiki II, 10am-4pm , Reiki II is an extension of Reiki I but with focus on understanding the emotional body , long distance healing , more in depth learning and understanding of the chakra system .

. Class includes certificate and manual $200.

December 4. 2015 : Mini workshop “ Jump Start 2016”  1pm-4pm. Are you ready to make 2016 your best year ever? Are you wanting to embrace the holidays and truly enjoy family and friends let me show you how. Weather permitting we will spent 30 minutes with horses. $150.

Dec 11. 2015 : All day Workshop “ Shine from With In”? Are you ready to experience living like never before?  10am-4:30pm. Life is so very previous , I truly believe we are here on this earth to learn how to love ourselves unconditionally  , learn to love others while, having fulfilling relationships that honor all.  When you know how to connect with yourself, know what you want , have a faith and belief system that will get you to your end goal anything is possible. Let the horses and I show you how… $250.

Specials:

The holidays are a time to enjoy giving and receiving . It can be as simple as a hug or an expensive gift.

From Wednesday November 25, 2015 through November 30 I am offering Buy one of our services , receive one for FREE to give as a gift to yourself or someone else.  Call  or email to receive special offer .

Health*JOY*Freedom…Lisa

Lisa Kuchinski CTC

BE it coaching/ Free Spirit Ranch

612-807-4740/715-448-4520

lisa@beitcoaching.com

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Inner Fulfillment VS external: Are both Possible???

          Are Both Possible: Inner Fulfillment

 Willie , he dances to his own inner voice everyday.

                                       and External???

Yes that is the question of the day, week , month , year and decade. The horses and I have had the privilege of working with hundreds of people, single , couples, families, and business owners.  I have observed  many miracles during all the "Equine Human Connection" sessions. The success I have seen in  individuals, is how the horses teach them to connect to their inner self, intuition, soul. 

You have feelings inside of your body, heart, stomach , etc. Your feelings are your guidance system just like the GPS in your phone , car, map quest, the question I ask you is are you listening? 

I know many folks who keep buying bigger homes , faster cars, get younger spouses , and shopping has become a profession to fill a void that can only be filled by self love. 

The answer to the above questions is  YES you can have both BUT inner self love , confidence, faith and happiness come first. All the money in the world can NOT buy you happiness or love. 

Part of the herd

How do you find love for yourself? 

* Find forgiveness for self and others.
* No judging, everything is an experience that is honoring or not to you.
* Still your mind daily for 15-30 minutes.
* Start listening to YOU , your intuition.
* Be aware of your emotions , NO stuffing them.
* Being Thankful and grateful for all that you have.
* Appreciate everything, a child's smile, the sun rise , sun set , the food on your table , your hands, feet , rain, sun, trees,  etc. 

Begin to see the world as a play ground, each new day is a new

opportunity a fresh new experience.
Be aware of every thought you have please make them honoring. 

Lance- teaches us about going forward

 

 Curious about "Equine Human Connection" session , The next 7 Fridays 10/16/15 - 11/27/15 we will be hosting mini "Equine Human Connection" workshops from 2-5pm... RSVP lisa@beitcoaching.com or call 612-807-4740

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa 

 

Self Growth-Are you expanding or Stuck???

                           

                                        Self Growth

Cisco and Phlaggston

  Is self growth part of your daily experience or are you thinking," what planet is she on?" You may be thinking who has time for self growth between work, kids , spouse , dating, laundry , caring for a house and cooking. Yes, there is a lot of time spent on survival.

But, what happens when you allow yourself to get out of survival mode,  smell the roses,  learn to manage every thought you have? Imagine having control over your thoughts . I read somewhere that the average person has 60,000 thoughts a day and every day a majority of the population continues to have the same 60,000 thoughts . Having the same thoughts when negative , day in day out, is disastrous. This is where the saying comes from" you become what you think ". Every thought you have reinforces who you are and your belief system .

 

Self growth can be very simple, learn to master every thought you have. Begin to tell a new story .

How to:

1) Turn the light on, Be present , Be in the now , FOCUS. Turn the auto pilot on OFF.

2)  Pick one area in your life that you want to see improvement . Perhaps it's getting healthy ( working out , knowing where your food comes from and making healthier chooses, cleaning your home with non-toxic cleaners , eduacating yourself on supplements or taking cooking classes. ) Pick one thing, for example, while working out all your focus , action, and self talk will be on how you will successfully work out each day by making a better choice with thoughts , words, and action.

 

Old thought                                                                New thought

 I don't have time to work out                                      I can be creative in finding time to workout

I'm fat , whats the point in working out?                       I'm being kind to me , my body is happiest.

                                                                                  when I'm moving .

  I don't like exercise                                                  I'm excited to discovery new ways of moving.

I'm too tired.                                                              I know I'll feel better when I start moving.

I never stick to a work out program                         Each new day gives me the opportunity to be                                                                               healthier. I like being healthy.

 

If you want a better relationship with your spouse, spend your thoughts on what that would look and feel like. Talk about what you want to be experiencing and living. 

As Humans, folks have a tendency to get stuck on where they are presently and get consumed with talking about what they  dislike  . STOP and ask yourself the question," Am I creating a new thought or am I stuck in the old thought process?" Every time you create a new thought, give yourself a word of praise! Be thankful for all that your learning and experiencing. Life is what you make of it . Make it over flowing with possibility! Embrace Self Growth!

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

 

What is an Aura? How does it relate to Relationship being energizing or depleting ?

                                Aura???

Asia in pasture with herd . Isn't it beautiful ?

 The horse your looking at with the halo around

her head is Asia . Asia has inspired me to show her photos and share my explanation of what an Aura is to me. Your energy field or Life Force Energy is vital to your health and well-being.

When I was a young child my Grandma K  and Aunt Mary had all kinds of painting of Jesus, Mary , The Last Supper and all figures had halo's around the top of their heads . I thought that was the coolest thing . I spent many hours just looking at the paintings that now reside in my parents house. May they take up residency in my sisters house some day. 

We have a light body which I like to think of as our soul and the layers of energy fields that extend past out physical body. Try this experiment perhaps at a party , movie theater , park , etc. Close your eye's lightly allowing your eyes to move side ways or up and down , yes while your eyes stay close. Slow your breathe and bring your attention to focus on your skin , the hair on your arms or the back of your neck. You'll begin to sense or feel people , animals, etc near you.  There is no touching just the sensation of presence . That sensation is on your energy field . Isn't that totally cool. 

My daughter Allie and Asia 

 

 Allie and Asia just finished a fabulous riding lesson at Jane Braddocks , Focused Riding . I used my phone to take these photo's , I was so excited when I could see their Aura's / light above their heads . Truly look at how they are looking at each other . They are completely connected , notice how their hearts are toward each other. Some folks call this place being in the Zone , Zen, being connected to the divine , flow, or having a rhythm.  This  place brings your heart and soul so much joy and raises your vibration or frequency of your body . Think of the phrase" being up lifted". 

Really look at this photo it's not clouds above their heads. This photo and the one above were taken with in seconds of each other. Did I see the aura's or halos , no  but I felt the meaning full interaction of the two of them so I started taking pictures. Think of the interaction of a mom with her baby , a couple in love or good friends hanging out. When your the observer of this interaction it makes you feel good and brings a smile to your face , it's very up lifting. When more than one energy field comes together with happiness it raises the happiness factor of all that are around , your experiencing a higher vibration. As human beings our souls crave this happy state . Your feelings are your emotional guidance system . In my heart I know this is how each of us can make a positive difference in the world by raising our vibration through "LOVE" . 

 
 


 Now notice the difference of how this photo feels and looks. Allie and Asia's energy fields have separated . Have you ever had the experience of passing a total stranger you exchange huge smiles and you have this wonderful feeling through your body and you feel more energized? You experienced the connection of Allie and Asia. In a healthy relationship this energy continues to lift each other up allowing  both to have more energy , become more creative . My prayer is that all relationships will begin to become aware of this energy and be sure to give thanks and keep that fire alive and healthy. 

Have you ever been around someone that you feel totally exhausted? The energy field / life force energy is being literally  sucked out of you. This is were the expression " He/She is killing me" Energetically they are . If your Life force energy becomes depleted for a long period of time it will affect your health and well-being .  No being a victim , your unconsciously allowing 
 the person to take your energy. We have to be accountable . Feel yourself getting tired , make a mental note to limit yourself around that person, get a book on raising your vibration, take a Reiki Class...I'm offering all three levels Sept 25 - Sept 27, 2015 . For more information go to  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Be-it-Coaching/132698060089473?ref=hl , or send me an email :)

Next week's blog will be on how to keep your vibration high and your life force energy filled up.
Be thankful all day long, allow love from your faith to flow continuous to you all day, Love You 
 more, Love the special people in your life more deeply. 


Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

 

 

Wanting / Needing / Being grateful , Appreciating

What do you want in your Life?

What do you need in your Life?

Are you grateful for your many Blessings? 

How do you acknowledge appreciation? 

Rohan, Asia, Monty

 

Many of my coaching clients seek help, guidance due to something  missing in their lives, lack of happiness , no energy , no motivation, a wanting for change.

Your emotions are your inner guidance system (soul) talking to you. The question is are you a listening.

Many folks have been raised that wanting  , desiring is selfish or materialistic. When you have a connection and love for yourself first ,you have an over flow of energy , compassion , prosperity to give back to the world. It all starts with self, no one , nothing can make you happy or healthy. It's the chooses, thoughts, and feelings you make that determine majority of your life. Are you ready to experience something new, more fulfilling? Are you ready to embrace more joy , and know what it feels like to be connected to all that is? It's a daily commitment.


I'd like you to get a note book and start writting down what you want.
Example : 
 I want to have perfect health.
I want to have a firm body.
I want to have over flowing amounts of money in my bank account
I want to love me unconditionally
I want my own of  business
I want a healthy , loving relationship

Talk and think about the qualities in a relationship that you want. You already know what doesn't work . Focus on what you want to be experiencing. 

Now expand upon each of the above

I need perfect health so I can feel good, I'll be able to move with ease. I'll have more energy to do things is life I enjoy,_______________________.  I'll be able to spend more time ____________________. When I feel good I'm happier. Give lots of detail. 

I need and am excited to have a successful business. I am not sure of what that would entail presently but I am open to meeting people , allowing new opportunities into my life that will guide me on the discovery to what that business is. I need a business that will give me ________________________. 
I need to make  $____________ plus. I need the business to allow me to be creative .

Fiona (horse) helping a client understand how thought and feelings affect our

 lives. "Equine Human Connection"

 
I am very thankful and blessed that I can breath and that my heart beats
I am very thankful and blessed for my perfect health it allows my to move with ease, work out , be active .
I am very thankful and blessed that I have electricity.

What do you want? What are you thankful and grateful for? You can allow life to happen to you , or you can embrace living and spend time daily on learning to create a life you'll love living. 

 
 Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa
For more information or sessions and workshops contact me at  lisa@beitcoaching.com

Removing Judgement , learn from your experiences with horses

 

                   Removing Judgement

              Learn from your experiences with horses

Equine Human Connection Session

 The horses and I have been empowering people for over a decade . When I think back on what we did in the beginning ( Equine Assist Learning/ Coaching) to what our clients experience today with Equine Human Connection (TM) I am ecstatic, due to how much we all have evolved or" morphed "my teacher would say.

Each of our lives represents what we feel , believe and know about ourselves. Take a look around at your surroundings, do you like what you see? Are you happy with your home, car , the quality of the food in your fridge? What does your clothing say about you? What does the way you walk say about you ? How do people treat you?  How does your heart feel about you? What do you see when you look into the mirror? Do you understand what it means to be connected to your soul? 

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Shadow

 Shadow ( Horse) teaches us all about the dark / light , good/ bad, soft/ hard, wet/dry, sunshine/ rain of life. In order to appreciate happiness fully we need to have experienced saddens. We get into emotional conflict when we place judgement on ourselves , others or situations. You may be thinking what kind of  garbage am I introducing to you. Two years ago I decide this is the lesson I need to master in order to grow personally and to better assist my clients. It's a whole different way of approaching life. Is it easy??? NO,  for me, it was a challenge in the beginning . I am a Libra which is about balance , equal parts , fairness , the symbol for Libra is the scale can you see how this new way of believing could be difficult, how could I weigh situations that I was experiencing or my clients?

First of  all life isn't fair. But when you remove judgement from all situations you've set yourself free from limitations. The creator has given each of us free will to live our lives as we please. So as an event plays out , remove the judgement and ask yourself how does this feel to me? Does it feel honoring or non-honoring to me? What is this experience saying or mirroring to me? Here's an example ; last weekend my daughter and our horse went to Chicago to compete at Fox River Valley. We brought another person with us , her horse and her friend. To save on expenses we were all going to share a hotel room.  Thirty minutes into the trip I became very uncomfortable due to the language the one person was using. I left judgement out , this person mirrored to me the importance of expanding my vocabulary, expressing what I needed to happen. I needed the two individuals to get their own hotel room , which they did. I expressed my truck is my personal space and in my space this is the language that is allowed. The best piece is ...  I had no self talk going on in my head, I have  no hard feelings toward the individual , I'm expanding my vocabulary and I honored myself and the person involved. 
 

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Shadow ( horse) is very gifted in teaching to remove judgement. It's best to practise with small steps in the beginning perhaps , someone cutting you off in traffic, your girl or boyfriend cancelling an event you were going to attend together,  thinking someone is looking at you strangely . Start small and work up. Some events in life are so very painful to understand or find meaning  and will only bring frustration if you attempt to remove judgement at this time. 

1) What do you need to learn from the situation? 
2) How can you grow? 
3) Is the person Mirroring something to you? 
4) Let go of having to be correct.
5) Did you like what you were experiencing?  


Life is about learning to love ourselves more deeply , having a relationship with creator and ENJOYING being ALIVE!
Many Blessings to you! Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa and Shadow

How to Create a Honoring Belief System

  

Willie Pony teaches us about allowing, while Fiona right of Willie teaches us the importance of loving self and all.

    How to Create a Honoring Belief System

Do you know the meaning of Belief? According to Webster Dictionary its:
 

: a feeling of being sure that some(one or something exists or that something is true
: a feeling that something is good, right, or valuable

: a feeling of trust in the worth or ability of someone

How do we form our belief systems? From our parents, family, friends, religion, teachers, experiences, social media, TV , magazines , society,  etc...  The horses ( Equine Human Connection) and I create experiences to empower folks to know if their core beliefs are theirs or some one else s. 

 

How do you create your core belief system? It's very simple ask yourself" what do I believe?"
ABOUT:
1)  Relationships/ Marriage
2) Spiritual Beliefs
3) Money / Wealth
4)Family
5) Health
6) Joy
7) Sex
Now write it down and read each question out loud . How does the sentence feel? If the sentence feels good , makes you smile it's honoring to you.

If the sentence feels  terrible or is bothersome it's someones else's belief.  Ask yourself what do I want my new belief to be that feels good? Write it down and reread the new belief am & pm for a minimum of 60 days to ensure your unconscious mind will make the new belief automatic.

Shadow (Horse) reminds us: to stop judging and look at life as an experience you like or don't . How will you take action in order to make life more honoring for you and the world?

Yes this may seem like a lot of work , it is . Remind yourself that your belief system creates the life you are now living and experiencing. Like what your living keep reenforcing your beliefs . 


If your  life is non-honoring , examples; poor health, unhappy , dislike job, lonely, lack of money, low self esteem, etc...that is your guidance system speaking loudly to you that some belief changes need to be made. 

Make yourself a priority in your life today! Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa