Importance of Asking for What You Need.

 

Notice the energy , do you see it? 

  When was the last time you asked for what you needed?

Josie ( Black horse) Willie Brown and white mini.
( Blog on Values#4 will be out on Friday ) 

Back to original question , When was the last time you asked for what you wanted? 

Did you answer hardly ever or never? Do you expect those close to you to read your mind ? Well as my incredible Grandma Winstanley used to always say " the squeaky wheel gets the oil " My grandma  was  overflowing with wisdom. I miss her dearly .

 I am physically strong from the work on the ranch plus I workout with weights , cardio for my heart ( yes dance counts for cardio), meditation and yoga for my soul so I couldn't understand why I was unable to put out large hay bales by myself this year??? 

Well when you ask your self a question silently or out loud your talking to your unconscious mind , higher self and the creator . What I always find to be amazing I / you will always get an answer back , the question is are you listening or trusting in what you hear, feel, or know. 

The answer that came to me was in two different areas . I need to practice asking for help and allowing the man in my life to have his role and be needed by me. Fear has kept me from needing anyone due to the dysfunctional marriage I allowed myself to be in. The second answer that came to me was "Just ask" . I laughed so hard, last year I always prayed and asked for help from the angels and Creator,to push the round bales in. Yes I push them in by hand. I said a prayer and the 600 pound bale rolled in with little effort on my part . I laughed so hard looked to the sky with my arms opened wide and chest expanded  and yelled an enormous "Thank you " ! 

From my days of church school I remembered learning that the bible says " Ask and it is given" When I ask the folks that come to learn from the horses and I  what they want 95% of folks have no idea . This is your life , Creator gives each and everyone that freedom of free will. 

I challenge you to turn off the TV , get off the computer for 15 minutes , crack up the tunes , dance , let yourself go and ask yourself " What do I want to experience" Know the answer to that question. Ask creator for help . Be present to discover the answer ,it will be a knowing , feeling or you may hear a voice, meet a person , discover a book , meeting , CD, my blog :) , one of my workshops , hear a song on the radio that will inspire you. It's your job to take action.

In my heart and soul I know we live in a beautiful world overflowing with possibility and opportunity, your outlook , beliefs , values , vibration determine your life. 15 years ago at a Al-Anon meeting a gentleman looked me in the eyes and said you can't blame your husband for your life your an active participate in it and are an active creator of what you are living.  My world was crushed, BUT it gave me an attitude adjustment , kick in the butt to start taking responsibility for me . What a gift I was given that day!

 JUST ASK! Live! Dance ! Breath! Celebrate! YOU are alive and on this earth! 

Health*JOY*Abundance ...Peace...Lisa

WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES?

When was the last time you made a list of your                                VALUES?

Last weeks blog you learned the importance of  values and that values are the foundation of your life just like a basement or concrete slab is to a house. This week I'd like YOU to give yourself the gift of 90 minutes of time and list your Values . 

What you value determines the outcome of your life . What new years resolutions do you keep making year after year? Let 2016 be the year that you know and understand your values in order to achieve your desired outcomes. Below are two examples of making a list of what you value . I personally prefer the longer list . There is no right or wrong with this exercise , let go of all judgement .  

Now the fun begins for each category you came up with and break it down more...here's an example.

 Example Health : Blood pressure is _____, eat organic food, walk 30 minutes daily , feel awesome , size _____, have lots of energy , enjoy drinking 8-8oz of pure water daily , Know what my body likes, appreciate my body for all that it does, Know my body can be healthy, add chanting to my yoga practice, breathe deeply , stretch daily , smile and laugh ,   etc... 

Now Circle the three most important and then rank that 1 *2*3 according to most important. 

Next week I will have a complimentary  video on all of this. The client I am working with can how see that she is wanting to change her career , but  career is not one of her top three priorities which is one of the reasons for her not being able to move forward. Can you relate? I know I can .

Each week I will continue to build on this knowledge so we can have an amazing 2016 over flowing with Health*JOY*Love and yes abundance ...Peace...Lisa

Clarity on Values

           Importance of Having Clarity on Personal Values ...

Horses enjoying the afternoon sun  

Can you remember a time when you had the AH HA moment , you just got it, you saw the light  and everything fell into place beautifully.  When you fully understand what is important to you on a personal level and you create a foundation based on what you value, many opportunities  will begin to present them selves.  When your values are put on the back burner internally it begins to feel like a game of tug-a-war.  Perhaps you value staying home with your kids but your back in the work force 40 plus hours a week . When your at work you feel bad about leaving the kids, when your home you feel bad about not being able to focus at work.Conflict of what you value.

How do you figure out what you place value on in your life. First what is the meaning of a value? A value is something you put meaning to , worth , benefit on. Your value is a standard you hold your self to , principles, behaviors, ethics and morals. You  make every decision based on what you value consciously and unconsciously . When you have a conflict with what you value it normally effects your decision making ability on a unconscious level, which means consciously your probably NOT aware of "how" "why " you are making the decisions your making, due to decision being made on auto pilot. By age 10 what you value is already established . Desiring change in your life ? Lets look at what you value before we jump into belief work so you can achieve success in all areas of your life . 

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All motivation and drive is based on what you value .  A client, we'll call Sally ( not her real name) , goal for 2015 was to increase her income by 20%. Sally's income increased by 3% she was upset that she didn't attain this goal. When looking back at past income goals we noticed a pattern of financial goals not being met. What Sally discovered when working with the horses is her value wasn't on the money but on the service she offered her customers, having her weekends off , and being able to take off when ever she wanted . Sally's belief was that in order to increase sales she will have to work 7 days a week . Since Sally's beliefs is she'd have to work seven days a week , her unconscious mind will make sure Sally has that experience if her income increased . Sally's value of having time to her self is in direct conflict with what she believed to be true. Sally worked on a plan to offer better customer service and to attract potential costumers  which is what she values. Sally felt good inside with this approach and she believes if her customers are happier they will  tell their friends resulting in increased sales and Sally can work the same amount of hours. 

If you find your NOT achieving your goals it's time to look at your core Values . 
Some questions to ask yourself are 1) Are you judging yourself? 2) make a list of what you are judging
3) Take each item you wrote down and write about how it makes you feel at a heart level. 4) Remove the judgement and ask yourself were you can find purpose in what you wrote. 5) Take a deep breath in and slowly exhale and ask your self "Is this important to me ? What's important to you about________________? 

Give yourself a day , weekend and get completely in touch with every aspect of your life, Health, Fitness, Family , Relationships,Career, Spirituality , giving back,  and emotions. Create a list of what you value. Values are the foundation of our beliefs. Beliefs are connected to your values. Values are unconscious, autopilot while beliefs are more conscious . 

Make 2016 about getting to know you, own your values and beliefs look forward to living a life that brings you your hearts desire. 

Next Wednesday we'll revisit Values again, have fun discovering you!


Health*JOY*Love...Peace...Lisa

Goals , Resolutions how to , What's stopping You?

Fiona teaches us about the importance of  LOVE, starting with self 

How many of your goals or resolutions from 2015 did you accomplish? 

Here's a new approach to resolutions.

I'm always looking for an understanding on what makes some people happy , healthy, successful, dreamers, wishers or victims. The new year brings a clean slate and offers many hope of a new way.  Sometimes the new year brings frustration for all the could have's  or should have's that were never started or lasted only a few days or weeks. 

What would happen if you changed a belief for 2016? What if you figured out the reason , root of what is stopping you from achieving. I believe you'd discover all your goals and dreams being accomplished.  

Lance teaches us about moving forward in life

I encourage you in the next 10 days to: 

1) Make a list of all your resolutions you've made in the past 5 years 
2) Put a star by the ones you accomplished.
3) If you have no Stars proceed to #5
3)Make a list of all the similarities of the items stared . Similarities could include feelings , thoughts , the words you said to yourself. Is there was a main metaphor for the star items such as money, health, exercise. 
4) How can you morph those experiences to recreate your new goal? 
5) As you view your  new years resolutions which one makes you the happiest to achieve 2016.

Now the fun begins, lets figure out what emotion or belief is stopping you from having ____________.  Let this be the year that you embrace the best you and release what is holding you back.

When we are young many beliefs are planted with in us that hold no truth. If your reading this you have the ability to release old beliefs and create ones that support you. 

Perhaps you heard: 

Your bad
You'll never have money
Everyone in our family has heart disease 
Your worthless
Stop being a baby  
You'll always be fat

Shadow teaches us about removing judgement

You  could/can choose to believe and start telling yourself

I'm good
Money comes easily too me
I am healthy
I am, that I am, worthy 
My feelings matter
I love me and nourish my body with healthy food and water

6)Write the word down that you want to achieve in 2016.  Example" healthy relationship"

Remove all judgement . Life is experiences that you learn from or not.

7)What time of day daily will you spend  5-15 minutes on your goal? Write it down , it will become a daily habit like brushing your teeth , showering , eating , and breathing . 

8) Journal How your life will change when you have Example "healthy Relationship"

9)Journal about what will happen in your life if you don't . Example "healthy relationship"

10) Every day at your daily time for the next 7 days write down all the words and feelings that come to you when you think of having_________________. Example "Healthy Relationship". 

For the next 51 weeks I will be writing weekly with tips so you can accomplish your goal and I can accomplish my goal of blogging weekly . I know we can do it! 

Do you have your 5-

15 minute daily time written down. Please send me a message with comments, questions . Here's to 2016. 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa 

Stress: Stay present Stay focused

          Stress / Overload/ Slow down/Breath 

Asia (horse) Brings awareness to Feminine Inner Power   

 Can you recall a time that you felt completely overloaded ? Perhaps you can relate to the holiday time of year . I know I can . We celebrate Christmas and being a single parent for over 13 years, sure has its challenges especially during the holiday's . 

When the days grow colder and longer I have this need to purge my house of clutter , reorganize and paint . As I release material things I no longer need I'm able to release beliefs and emotions I have been holding onto.  What a relief and energy booster. What do you need to let go of?

This December I've repainted hallway and kitchen , plus rearranged all my kitchen cabinets,  found new homes for all the overload of dishware I accumulated this year. Where am I going with all this , how does stress fit into the equation ? 

This is the busiest time of year for the horses and I with Equine Human Connection. I wasn't aware that I was feeling overloaded until the other day when I realized  I haven't bought any gifts , I have a green Xmas tree in my living room, assisting my college son with getting school loan , house needs a new roof.  My ex-husband is a severe alcoholic our kids need my emotional support at the moment which is very draining on me . Nick my oldest child is challenged , he's so worried about his dad that he's up all night long . Nick can be a runner so when he's up I need to get up to make sure he stays in the house .  

I believe I'm handling this all very well until I get a new client  that unconsciously reminds me of my ex-husband .  I'll call client Alan not his real name . While we're working with the horses I am aware that I'm feeling very frustrated . Alan is having a challenging time with the horses due to his fear of the  horses and fear of success .

Josie reminds you to have compassion for self and others  

The herd helps Alan so much , he leaves session overwhelmed with lots of information on how to release fear and go forward into success. This is where priority and focus come in . I take lots of photos during the sessions to enable clients to continue their learning at home . Alan will pick one photo and that will be his focus to acknowledge his feelings from the session and how he can take this information and implement it into his life. 

After Alan leaves I am very confused with how challenging the session was for me . I go to the cupboard to make tea and I went to the cabinet that housed the tea three weeks ago . Went to reach for my teacup once again I went to the cabinet that it was previously in three weeks ago . 
I started to laugh , this is the important part , I was overwhelmed , on auto pilot , parts of Alan's session with the horses triggered past unpleasant  memories from when I was married. That trigger took me back to the past , when I was going for the tea , I thought tea for a moment and then my focus was gone due to my brain trying to figure out my emotions I went back to the old habit , the old routine of where the tea was in the past . This happens when your on auto-pilot.

Tea is very simple and silly , I believe it's vitally important to find humor in life . What I want you to have awareness of is when your stressed , overloaded  the mind to protect itself goes on autopilot , which takes you back to the old way of feeling and doing majority of the time . The holidays can be a very hard time of year for many people due to going back to old non-honoring patterns like my tea cupboard story . 

Here are some tips to help you stay focused , calm and know your triggers.

1) Slow down , BE purposeful about everything, what you think, eat, how you move, who you talk to, what you watch on TV , read , the company you keep etc . Being purposeful will help keep you focused.
2) Limit sugar and processed foods , they cause brain fog. 
3) Breath deeply and slowly . On your exhale let go , shake off anything that doesn't feel or think honoring.
4) Do an active activity outside , purposely breathe in fresh air and purposely exhale.
5) Know what triggers you or sets you off. When you acknowledge your triggers you give yourself permission to be in control of them.
6) Acknowledge all your strengths.
7) Limit your to do list to your top 3 priorities for the day and star your number one priority.
8) Keep your focus , thoughts on your top priorities.
9) Having a hard time focusing start saying or singing everything your thankful & grateful for in your life . Bring on the happy.
10) Know your spending budget/money management and stick to it . How creative can you be with your money? 
11) Learn or master meditation and Visualization ( Check out Youtube) 
12)  Pray throughout the day for yourself , others , community , your country , animals , and the world. 

Willie ( the pony ) teaches you how to allow opportunities into your life . Shadow is behind Willie Teaches you the importance of removing judgement , life is experiences you like or do NOT like . 

How can you bring joy into your life today ? Smiles and laughter are to your soul what water is to a plant . Nourish your soul and grow. 

Many Blessings to you ! Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa 

Feeling and Emotions : What are they telling you ? Are you listening?

                  Feelings and Emotions 

What do they mean? Are you really listening and hearing your inner guidance system? 

 

Helena( our very dear friend) and Asia - Graduation picture .

If your frustrated but the mere thought of how, why you are feeling the way you are , STOP take in a very deep breath , hold it for 4 seconds and as slowly as you can exhale and know that you are not alone. The horses and I created "Equine Human Connection"  to empower folks to understand the importance of your feelings, emotions = your inner guidance system. Do you need to come to the ranch and work with the horses to understand this all, NO , a daily commitment to YOU is where it all starts.

Ask yourself right now "What am I feeling? Where am I feeling it?" "What is the message , what do I need to know, now?" " What will I do with this knowledge"? "How can I implement this into my life"? " How does that make me feel"?

This all my seem silly but your body truly is talking to you through emotion. There are many books out there that write about dis-ease being associated to your emotions. ( Louise Hay- Heal your Life) . 

Asia teaches you about your inner power

 Here are a few examples from clients that the horses and I assist.( I've changed their names)

Connie was struggling with sadness , being lonely and her weight . The more Connie's energy was focused on sadness and being lonely the sadder she became and lonelier.  Remember we get what we focus on. What is the opposite of sad-Happy , opposite of lonely - ________. The horses and I helped Connie figure out where she felt the above emotions , in her heart and stomach. Connie's body was giving her signals trying to communicate with her but she wasn't hearing . 

 Connie was able to figure out she was eating to stuff her emotions . Connie know has the awareness  to check in with how she's feeling before she eats and ask herself a list of questions . 

1) Am I Hungry? If answer is yes , enjoy your healthy food , if  NO ask yourself more questions.

2) How is my body feeling light or heavy? Heavy normally represents a block.

3)What is this feeling telling me ? 

4) What can I do about it?

5) Am I being honoring and loving to me?

When your heart is sad and you want love it becomes a mixed signal . Every time you think  of love since it's related to sadness you kept getting the same result more sadness. Is this all confusing , yes , it is at first due to majority of people including me weren't raised to tune into what you are feeling. 

Feelings give you information on how you are responding to you, a person , situation,  experience etc. 

Horses roll modeling confusion 

Tony  normally works with the horses to brain storm business ideas. Tony newest business adventure wasn't progressing as planned due to feelings and emotions he was ignoring. As Tony attempted to work with the horses to bring work problem to a conscious level what unfolded was feelings he was putting a side regarding his girl friend. A few things in their long term relationship created red flags for him and he wasn't acknowledging what he was feeling. As my grandma would say " emotions and feelings were being swept under the rug" . You can only keep swiping dirt under the rub for so long and then it begins to build up and seep out creating dust . Hided emotions and thoughts create dust of their own which are blocks that turn into walls which will negatively affect all areas of your life.

When Tony tuned in to what he was feeling he discovered that he was frustrated , angry with his girlfriend due to she would say one thing and do something else . At first it started out being little thing, then it happened again , and again . She always told him after about her change of plans it just didn't feel good to him . Tony talked about his feelings , which brought up could he trust his girlfriend , which went to he didn't trust is ex-wife , which brought past hurts from his childhood and how he felt abandoned couldn't trust his parents . 

Can you relate this all to someplace in your life? I know I can. 

The fire department teaches you to STOP * Drop and Roll if you are on fire . To me feelings left unattended are similar to a smoldering fire which left alone will turn into a out of control blaze.When it comes to feelings I say " Stop * Feel * Acknowledge".

Connie has made a daily commitment to her feelings and know has more energy and joy than anyone I know plus she's healthy , slim and fit. 

Tony's newest business adventure is a success and he and his long term girlfriend are becoming better communicators.

Please check is with yourself a few times a day and ask yourself "How am I feeling"? " How could my relationships be more fulfilling"? "Does this feel good" "Am I honoring me"? "Is this in my best interest"? "Am I making the right decision for all concerned"? "Am I making the world a better place"? " Is this my problem or someone else s"?

Human beings have incredible instincts and an internal guidance system be sure yours in turned on , BE present , BE aware , Feel , BE thankful you are alive . We do live in a beautiful world that does get better every day , when in doubt reflect on the dark ages , We have come a long way baby.

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

Phlaggston and I , we have been a team for 19 years and still going strong.

 

To Judge or NOT to Judge is the Question?

                          Judgement???

Asia on left teaches you about inner connection and power ; Shadow teaches you the importance of removing judgement and understanding how experiences make you feel.

Can you Believe It’s November? Lots going on at Free Spirit Ranch/ Be it Coaching. Arranging fencing for winter, bringing in hay , cleaning paddocks and staining gates . Plus enjoying all this fabulous weather we have been having. May you give yourself the gift of spending time every day outside breathing fresh air and stilling the mind .

I find it interesting how trends happen. This month the trend with “Equine Human Connection “ ( coaching with the horses and I) has been on removing judgement . What does that mean , or how is that possible , sounds crazy . Yes I agree removing judgement can be a bit confusing  due to  the amount of folks being raised  with an eye for an eye thought , thinking and feeling getting even will make you feel better, having justice. When I first started considering limiting  judgement from my life it was an enormous challenge . But , Shadow ( who is a rescue horse that lives at the ranch, his photo is in the attachment above)has gently taught me the importance of removing judgement , which has allowed freedom, lightness, stillness to flow into my life. 

Shadow

Shadow (Horse) and I have been introducing this thought to the folks we work with . I know from the results in my own life plus the clients I work with daily, this concept works.

When you remove judgement you set yourself free, you open yourself up to getting in touch with your instinct’s, internal guidance system, emotions and feelings. If you remove judgement you can ask yourself “Do I like how this feels” ? “Is this an experience I want to repeat”?  “  Does this experience honor me and the world” ?

It’s been proven through many studies that the average person has the same 60,000 thoughts a day . Yes this is called living on auto pilot . When you live on autopilot, with feelings turned off , keep doing what you’re doing, yes like a robot, you keep getting the same experiences, your predictable ,  and majority of the time begin to give up on your dreams, because you truly begin to believe what is the point . I have experienced this thought from observing my parents , family members, friends and clients. I do what I do because I know if you learn to master your thoughts, feelings and learn how to input information into the unconscious mind, a world of possibility is waiting for you. Living becomes so much fun, your health improves and joy begins to fill your life.

Everything in our world has a vibration from the smallest bug to the electricity that flows through your home . When you turn on your light switch the result you see is the light turning on. When you have a thought/feeling it’s just like that light that lights up the room, your thought/ feeling lights up, vibrates out form you . Example : I have a client Sophie she’s wanting to have more meaningful relationship with her husband . Sophie judges everything around her, Shadow ( horse) keeps all the other horses away from Sophie and pushes Sophie around gently giving her a visual of the vibration she is sending out. As Sophia complains about her husband a vibration leaves her body , keeping all the horses away from her, yes Shadow keeps pushing at her.

 I encouraged Sophie to begin to focus on how she wanted her relationship to BE. She began to tell me how she wanted their relationship to be , hope and calmness began to show on her face. Guess what happened YES the horses began to interact with her kindly.  Fiona ( Horse) came up to Sophie and gently touching her shoulder and hand. Fiona teaches us about love.  Sophie began to experience love from Fiona, she was able to communicate out loud how she wanted to give and receive love from her husband. Sophie was sending a vibration out for what she WANTED CONSCIOUSLY to give and receive. Yes her relationship is becoming more loving with her husband. Is it easy , physically yes, but mentally and emotionally it requires Sophie’s full focus and attention all the time. Sophie is getting off autopilot and becoming a conscious creator of her life. It’s similar to defrocking a computer , shocking a pool, rewiring a house, cleaning out a  closet , pulling the weeds from your garden.

  I believe in taking baby steps while learning anything new,  lots less pressure which equals success. Sophie decided to FOCUS on what she wanted to experience ,stopped judging her husband, If she became frustrated she’d acknowledge how she was feeling then ask herself “How would I rather feel “? We have a choice on how we feel about everything . I encourage each of you  beginning now to be aware of what you’re thinking , feeling and ask yourself where can I remove judgment and put the FOCUS on what I WANT !  Please let me know if this information has been helpful and how I can be of better service to you.

Opportunities : Free Spirit Ranch/Be it Coaching , Maiden Rock WI

November 13 & 20 , 2015: Group Mini work shop” Equine Human Connection”  2pm-5pm. You will leave experience with horses with a better understanding of how your thoughts , feelings effect your life and how to begin to master them. You will receive email with photos of your experience and a small written summary of your experiences with horses  . $100

November 14, 2015 : Reiki I , 10am-4pm ,people from all around the world are now taking an interest in Reiki, a form of hands on healing. Learn to balance your energy, release stress and, naturally lower your blood pressure. Promotes relaxation and over all well-being. Concentration is on wellness and releasing for physical body . Give yourself and your loved ones the gift of Reiki. Class includes certificate and manual $100.

November 15, 2015: Reiki II, 10am-4pm , Reiki II is an extension of Reiki I but with focus on understanding the emotional body , long distance healing , more in depth learning and understanding of the chakra system .

. Class includes certificate and manual $200.

December 4. 2015 : Mini workshop “ Jump Start 2016”  1pm-4pm. Are you ready to make 2016 your best year ever? Are you wanting to embrace the holidays and truly enjoy family and friends let me show you how. Weather permitting we will spent 30 minutes with horses. $150.

Dec 11. 2015 : All day Workshop “ Shine from With In”? Are you ready to experience living like never before?  10am-4:30pm. Life is so very previous , I truly believe we are here on this earth to learn how to love ourselves unconditionally  , learn to love others while, having fulfilling relationships that honor all.  When you know how to connect with yourself, know what you want , have a faith and belief system that will get you to your end goal anything is possible. Let the horses and I show you how… $250.

Specials:

The holidays are a time to enjoy giving and receiving . It can be as simple as a hug or an expensive gift.

From Wednesday November 25, 2015 through November 30 I am offering Buy one of our services , receive one for FREE to give as a gift to yourself or someone else.  Call  or email to receive special offer .

Health*JOY*Freedom…Lisa

Lisa Kuchinski CTC

BE it coaching/ Free Spirit Ranch

612-807-4740/715-448-4520

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