Removing Judgement , learn from your experiences with horses

 

                   Removing Judgement

              Learn from your experiences with horses

Equine Human Connection Session

 The horses and I have been empowering people for over a decade . When I think back on what we did in the beginning ( Equine Assist Learning/ Coaching) to what our clients experience today with Equine Human Connection (TM) I am ecstatic, due to how much we all have evolved or" morphed "my teacher would say.

Each of our lives represents what we feel , believe and know about ourselves. Take a look around at your surroundings, do you like what you see? Are you happy with your home, car , the quality of the food in your fridge? What does your clothing say about you? What does the way you walk say about you ? How do people treat you?  How does your heart feel about you? What do you see when you look into the mirror? Do you understand what it means to be connected to your soul? 

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Shadow

 Shadow ( Horse) teaches us all about the dark / light , good/ bad, soft/ hard, wet/dry, sunshine/ rain of life. In order to appreciate happiness fully we need to have experienced saddens. We get into emotional conflict when we place judgement on ourselves , others or situations. You may be thinking what kind of  garbage am I introducing to you. Two years ago I decide this is the lesson I need to master in order to grow personally and to better assist my clients. It's a whole different way of approaching life. Is it easy??? NO,  for me, it was a challenge in the beginning . I am a Libra which is about balance , equal parts , fairness , the symbol for Libra is the scale can you see how this new way of believing could be difficult, how could I weigh situations that I was experiencing or my clients?

First of  all life isn't fair. But when you remove judgement from all situations you've set yourself free from limitations. The creator has given each of us free will to live our lives as we please. So as an event plays out , remove the judgement and ask yourself how does this feel to me? Does it feel honoring or non-honoring to me? What is this experience saying or mirroring to me? Here's an example ; last weekend my daughter and our horse went to Chicago to compete at Fox River Valley. We brought another person with us , her horse and her friend. To save on expenses we were all going to share a hotel room.  Thirty minutes into the trip I became very uncomfortable due to the language the one person was using. I left judgement out , this person mirrored to me the importance of expanding my vocabulary, expressing what I needed to happen. I needed the two individuals to get their own hotel room , which they did. I expressed my truck is my personal space and in my space this is the language that is allowed. The best piece is ...  I had no self talk going on in my head, I have  no hard feelings toward the individual , I'm expanding my vocabulary and I honored myself and the person involved. 
 

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Shadow ( horse) is very gifted in teaching to remove judgement. It's best to practise with small steps in the beginning perhaps , someone cutting you off in traffic, your girl or boyfriend cancelling an event you were going to attend together,  thinking someone is looking at you strangely . Start small and work up. Some events in life are so very painful to understand or find meaning  and will only bring frustration if you attempt to remove judgement at this time. 

1) What do you need to learn from the situation? 
2) How can you grow? 
3) Is the person Mirroring something to you? 
4) Let go of having to be correct.
5) Did you like what you were experiencing?  


Life is about learning to love ourselves more deeply , having a relationship with creator and ENJOYING being ALIVE!
Many Blessings to you! Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa and Shadow

How to Create a Honoring Belief System

  

Willie Pony teaches us about allowing, while Fiona right of Willie teaches us the importance of loving self and all.

    How to Create a Honoring Belief System

Do you know the meaning of Belief? According to Webster Dictionary its:
 

: a feeling of being sure that some(one or something exists or that something is true
: a feeling that something is good, right, or valuable

: a feeling of trust in the worth or ability of someone

How do we form our belief systems? From our parents, family, friends, religion, teachers, experiences, social media, TV , magazines , society,  etc...  The horses ( Equine Human Connection) and I create experiences to empower folks to know if their core beliefs are theirs or some one else s. 

 

How do you create your core belief system? It's very simple ask yourself" what do I believe?"
ABOUT:
1)  Relationships/ Marriage
2) Spiritual Beliefs
3) Money / Wealth
4)Family
5) Health
6) Joy
7) Sex
Now write it down and read each question out loud . How does the sentence feel? If the sentence feels good , makes you smile it's honoring to you.

If the sentence feels  terrible or is bothersome it's someones else's belief.  Ask yourself what do I want my new belief to be that feels good? Write it down and reread the new belief am & pm for a minimum of 60 days to ensure your unconscious mind will make the new belief automatic.

Shadow (Horse) reminds us: to stop judging and look at life as an experience you like or don't . How will you take action in order to make life more honoring for you and the world?

Yes this may seem like a lot of work , it is . Remind yourself that your belief system creates the life you are now living and experiencing. Like what your living keep reenforcing your beliefs . 


If your  life is non-honoring , examples; poor health, unhappy , dislike job, lonely, lack of money, low self esteem, etc...that is your guidance system speaking loudly to you that some belief changes need to be made. 

Make yourself a priority in your life today! Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

Going for it VS Self Doubt: work , Relationships , Goals , Self Growth

                      Going For it VS Self Doubt

Take a leap of Faith

In life sometimes we need to just take a leap of faith like Asia in the above picture and just trust . Much easier said than done . 

Perhaps your in a relationship that your unsure of, your work is exhausting, or your just wondering how did I ever get here? This isn't the life I've signed up for . Perhaps you are living an excellent live and ready to take it one step higher. 

 What is the one thing in your life that you want to experience right now? Think it , say it , write it down.

Read it back to yourself, yes out loud. How does that make you feel? Do you believe it ?  What will happen in your life once you have that experience ? What will happen if you don't have that experience? 

We get what we focus on, put our attention to, feel, and energy towards. Example your wanting to have an incredible life long relationship with that special someone or fulfilling work.

Do you?

1) Know the qualities of the person/work your willing to  allow into your life?

2) Can you visualize every detail of that person /work?

3) Have you found forgiveness for past hurts and let go of non-honoring experiences?

4) How are you feeling when you think of having that person/work in your life? 

5) Do you believe its possible to have an incredible relationship/ work?

6) Do you know what you want and know it will come to you?

or do you Sabotage a relationship/work by thinking;

1) All the good ones, people or jobs are taken.

2) My ex/employer did...focus on the past negative experiences.

3) Focus on what could go wrong?

4) Keep your mind filled with non-honoring self talk?

5) Ask yourself "what is wrong with me " ?

6) Keep checking online dating site to see if that person is on line ? Asking co-workers what your boss thinks of you?

Fiona teaching a client how to Allow an experience in, what it feels like. ( Equine Human connection)

 Lance teaching client how her thoughts and emotions push him away( Equine Human Connection)

What you are living is a movie picture of your belief system. If your full attention is going  toward " going for it" you'll get it if you believe it, keep your attention on it. Looking forward to how it will come into your life, yes being thankful.

If your filled with self doubt you will bring that experience to you as well. 

May you fully  release past hurts to allow room for possibility.

Next blog will be on How to Create a honoring  belief system .

The horses and I empower folks to understand how your beliefs, thoughts, feelings bring experiences into your life. 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

 

What does Conscious mean? Regarding Life? Relationships? Joy?

What Does Conscious Mean? Regarding Life? Relationships? Joy?

Horses are excellent at teaching humans about consciousness 

This past week it seemed everything I read had the word conscious in it and I asked my self the question what does this all mean? I have been teaching and studying the Conscious / unconscious mind for the past decade. I am completely intrigued with how our mind can empower or sabotage an idea , thought , relationship all with in one second. 

When you are conscious you are 100% present and engaged in your thought , activity , conversation.  All your energy is focused , you have a knowing and an awareness. Your completely in tuned to what your feeling , seeing and hearing. 

What does this have to do with life ? EVERYTHING! If your desiring to have a more meaningful relationship, or joy in your life learning to be conscious , aware of what you want to be experiencing. The key phrase here is wanting to BE experiencing. You know what you have experienced , when you spent time flash backing , talking about the past, your keeping your self in the past. A thought  is  energy , a  pattern  your sending out into the world to bring you more of that thought.  

Conscious living requires learning to be aware of the  thought you are thinking, being able to stop your thought instantly and create a new one.  Remember when you learned a new activity perhaps riding a bike , horse or driving a car, all your attention went to what you were learning. 

Your desiring more joy in your live ask yourself
1) What makes me happy ? 
2) How do I feel Joy?
3) What does happy look like? 

Now the fun part begins, place  all your attention , focus , yes your consciously living on allowing joy into your life . As you allow opportunities of happiness to easily gravitate toward you, Please be sure to acknowledge and appreciate the moment and be fully engaged . Here's an example of being present ,  your walking down the side walk and you notice a couple holding hands and laughing on steps as you pass them. 

Your conscious living when 
1) You smile because you look forward to experiencing a relationship that is caring.
2) Your thankful for observing and acknowledging a experience you'd like to have .
3) You noticed the flowers in the pot and were curious about what the orange flowers were.
4) You begin to be aware of all the beauty that surrounds you . 
5) Your aware of experiences that feel terrible , experiences that feel better, experiences that feel magnificent. 

Freedom( horse) teaches how freedom feels in your body . " Equine Human Connection"

  

 
 
 
 6) Your Being in the moment , your attention is on this instant in time .

Conscious living does require time to master but the rewards are so worth it. Just for today please be aware of every word you say and how it makes you feel. Over time majority of your words will be honoring of the new experiences you'll be creating and living . Enjoy you!

Willie teaches a client about how allowing feels in her body -" Equine Human Connection" 

( Coaching with horses )

 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

 
 

Defining Relationship with Self / Others: What Happiness and Sadness Teach us

   Defining Relationships with Self /Others

               What Happiness and Sadness Teach Us

 

Willie teaches us about allowing opportunity into our lives 

 You can only bring into your life from where you are right now. What does that me ? If your a Happy person you'll be able to bring happy people into your life. If your a sad person you'll bring sad people into your life. We can only receive what we send out, which is called vibrations. 

What ever relationship you have with yourself that is the relationship you will draw to your experience / life. 

If your sad be thankful for that experience its  your soul communicating with your emotional body/heart  . Yes we do have emotions for a reason. Now what do you do with that information? You can continue to do what your doing , being ,and you know for a fact the sadness will continue. Or you can ask yourself " How can I be  happy"?"What makes me happy"?

This past week the horses and  I have  hosted numerous workshops. What surprised me the most when I'd ask the question "What do you want "? No one could answer that question. This is a question I'd like you to ask yourself every day and please answer yourself. This is your life , make it a fabulous life overflowing with love and Joy. 

 

 When your happy that's your soul telling you your on the correct path , keep up the JOY! 

 Remember how it feels to fall in love? What happens? Your all smiles,  all the wonderful  sensations that go through your body , metabolism speeds up, you need less sleep and the world is such a happier place . Your body is talking to you isn't it? What if you could love YOU that much ? Imagine how beautiful your life could be very day . 

May you give yourself the gift of knowing you and hearing your soul. 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa

Willie teaches us about allowing while Lance teaches us about moving forward

 

Beliefs ... Money VS No money , Happiness VS no happiness

        Beliefs ...honoring ...non-honoring ???

What is a belief ? Beliefs are  words that you keep telling yourself over and over and over again until it becomes your truth your life.

The challenging part of a belief is if your NOT living the life you want, you have to take a long look at your belief system . Something is out of alinement . 

At a very young age we all are taking in the people around us belief systems . Sometimes that's great, other times it is what's stopping you from living a fabulous life.

Example: a client of mine grew up in a family that believed having too much money was a sin. Guess what no matter what she did she was unable to increase her income. 

Tanya grew up believing all the women in her family would get breast cancer .

Michael grew up believing that he would be heavy because all the people in his family are over weight. 

A belief is extremely powerful and can actually change your DNA . Lots of medical proof out there to prove this . ( check out "Biology of belief" by Bruce Lipton micro biologist)

So how can you change a belief ? I think of it like training   a horse or a dog. It doesn't happen over night. You have to know what result you'd like example : Health, confidence, love, more freedom in your life. 

Goal to get Asia to relax . Notice position of her body, neck is tight, she's taking little steps .

 

Asia neck is still tight, she's a little more relaxed.

Look at Asia here. Isn't that pretty? It took Allie 30 minutes of warm up to get her relaxed and moving softly.

 

 

The above photos of Asia is to give you a visual of what can happen in your life when you practise what you want and believe it can be true.

   With practise and a knowing yes you can change a belief. Here's a few How to...

1) Pick one belief to work on at a time 

2) Dedicate 15- 30 minutes daily to work on new belief.

3) Write about the new belief you'd like to be experiencing. example money. Write down how you feel about money , how much money you'd like to be allowing into your life . Can money easily flow into your life?  

4) Each day for 30 days write down the first word that comes to your mind when you think of having a flow of money? example: Frustration, fear , freedom , anticipation, joy etc.

5) Write journal about that word for 15 - 30 minutes until you feel a sense of relief in you. 

 What the above exercise does is create possibility for your unconscious mind . A great book to read is by Greg Kuhn " beliefs".

Embrace being in the driver seat of your life. When you begin to see the change in your life you want to live, life is incredible!

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa

Do You Dance, Sing to your Own Drum? Path to Inner Freedom

   Do You Dance, Sing to your Own Drum? 

             The Path to Inner Freedom

Shadow , He represents understanding the light and dark from with in.

 

 

What does it mean to dance and  sing to your own inner drum ? Each on of us is born with our own inner guidance system which we call our soul , inner knowing or perhaps intuition .

Allow your self to delight in watching a young child and how they navigate their day. Can you remember when you were 3 or 4? A baby has their own Rhythm, we each do, it's whether we acknowledge and honor that piece of our self . Or do you allow others, society to tell you what to belief or who you are. 

From my own family and clients I  have observed lots of experiences the last few weeks offering them all an opportunity to step into a greater version of them selves . Yes life can be extremely challenging but the knowledge and self growth and what you do with that information strengthens , weakens  or changes the foundation of your life.  

You have two choices be your own care giver , take responsibility , learn and grow from the experience . In the moment its hard to see the rainbow or the end of the tunnel , ask yourself how can I go with the flow , how can I get to a better feeling? What would my prefect day be ? Keep that vision ,  feeling and trust you. You do have all the answers with in YOU!

Second option is to be the victim and blame the world. Keep saying what else can go wrong and I guarantee it will.  What you do know in playing the victim role your foundation will stay weak and over time will be washed away like the storms at sea carrying away the sand . 

Rohan ( Inner power) Willie ( Go for it attitude )

 

Here's an example of dancing to your own drum. Changing the clocks each spring and fall doesn't work for me . I have one clock in my house and it's on Lisa time ...I've done this for the past couple of decades...This Sunday when the clock goes ahead one hour my time stays the same . This wouldn't work for everyone but it works for me. What relief that brings to my life.

I have a client that struggles with age , very simple solution she can be what ever age she wants to be. Does her new way of thinking drive some folks nuts , you beat it does , who cares , she's not harming anyone , Right?...She is creating her own belief system what works for her. Yes she is dancing to her own drum, plus she looks younger, healthier, and is happier which allows her to be a kinder person in the world . Win win situation in my world.

I encourage you to begin dancing to your own drum, enjoy the inner freedom and love you will BE experiencing.  

Health*JOY*prosperity...Peace...Lisa