Fear : Do you embrace it?

                   Fear, fear, FeAr, RaeF, faer

What would happen if you embraced fear , morphed it , or gave it a whole new meaning ? 

 For the majority of us today we are blessed with NOT having to  panic about were our next meal will come from, being in distress about being attacked by wild animals daily or dred about having to bath in freezing cold water in April due to no running hot water. 

I have many clients who are fearful and come to work with the horses and I to change that fear energy into spark , creativity a challenge . Here's a quick exercise that I have my clients do.

Are you ready to embrace a new way of looking at the word fear. Grab a piece of paper write down what the number one thing is that you have been putting off for the last three years. Perhaps it's having a budget or managing your money, perhaps it to stop drinking , perhaps its to get in shape , perhaps its to start your own business, being the best parent or become a writer? Write it down... 

99.9 % of the time what stops each and every one of  us from accomplishing greatness is fear. Fear can keep you safe, be a warning or it can stop you dead in your tracks. First ask your self am I safe ? If your answer is yes,condense what you have written from above  into one sentence. 

Now the fun begins , lets take the fear away and get you on your journey to living the life you were born to  live . 

Here's an example of a sentence "  I am not starting a new business because I don't have enough time , don't think I can do it" 

Now rewrite the sentence putting the first word at the end of the sentence and say out loud" am not starting a new business because I don't have enough time , don't think I can do it I" ( YES say it out loud to you! , yes you are a very important person!)  

Put the first word again at the end of the sentence and say out loud "  " Not starting a new business because I don't have enough time don't think I can do it I am " 

Do this for every word. Congratulations , you've removed all emotion of the fear that has been holding you back . How do you know that is true ________________________________, yes say it out loud.  So be it! 

Life is a magnificent playground , stop working so hard and start playing , learning , exploring , wondering  BE curious of all the possibility that is waiting for you! 

Health*JOY*Abundance...Peace...Lisa

I am walking on top of the great mighty Mississippi River 

Priority > You>Values

                     Priority>U>Values #3

How many horses do you see?



  

I am completely blessed being able to live with this amazing herd of horses. Together we empower so many thousands of folks yearly . The horses and my clients teach me so much every day . I get the honor of sharing all our collected knowledge so you can live the life you were born to live. What we  call Equine Human Connection (TM) similar to Equine assisted learning .

Priorities ... Is it a priority to wear clean clothes ? Is it a priority to feed your body ? Is it a priority to put fuel in your vehicle ? What happens if you forget to put fuel in ? Yes your vehicle will stop running, what fun is it to run out of fuel ? Perhaps it could be an adventure . Is it a priority to pay your electric bill ? What happens if you don't , electricity gets turned off. How long have you lived without electricity? On a camping trip that may be fun but in your own home that's a different story . 

Why all the questions. Your values determine everything in your life , values are the fuel in your car, foundation at your home ,  This is the 3rd article in a series on Values . Yes I'm trying to get the video I promised down loaded. It's coming.

Please get your sheets that you wrote your values on , don't know what I'm talking about read http://beitcoaching.blogspot.com/2016/01/what-are-your-values.html  and

 http://beitcoaching.blogspot.com/2016/01/clarity-on-values-to-embrace-beliefs.html.

Here's an example of my values . There is no right or wrong to a value list we are each unique individuals your list will have different words and meanings on it. Honor and celebrate your uniqueness.

Circle your top three that are most important to you . Now ask yourself the question what do I want to be experiencing in my life ? Are your top three circled values inline with what yo want . Mine are not. So in order for me to get in alignment with what I want and what I want to experience I need to make a conscious effort 24 hours a day 7 days a week to do this .  I am caring for my foundation , or fueling my car. My kids are adults now ( my oldest is challenged and requires a lot of my time, have awesome help for him now ) . Family has always been my number one priority and you know what my adult  kids are incredible  and I have mastered parenting . Time for me to build my own nest.

 I am wanting to grow my business , I need to nurture and care for my business like I have raised my kids . Acknowledge an area in your life were you have been successful. Take those skills and apply them to your values. My business is moving to # 3 of importance, it was #9 then #4. I will keep self care #2 because with out health , well-being I can't do what I need to do . 
Spirituality is staying at #1 . My work with the horses is Divine , I have a connection with the horses, nature and creator that I didn't know was possible . When I maintain my connection with all that is I have a peace, joy that no words can express and an overflowing pool of creativity.

Asia teaches us about honoring the divine feminine with in each of us.

I have been single for 14 years now . I know folks on their 3rd and fourth marriages , I always wonder how do you do this . I was married once ( that is a book in the making). My kids and animals have filled my life , well I have a desire to be successful at having a relationship, when I went through my past value lists I had to laugh, relationship wasn't on my list. It was of no importance to me or perhaps I had a fear around having a relationship , which that is most likely the truth :). Relationship is on my list at #6 after careful consideration and soul searching I've moved it to #4 with my kids being #5. That still is a conflict for me , due to my kids have always come first . I have amazing help with my oldest, the other two are thriving I can now let go .

Your value list is very serious , you want to change your life this is where you start . It starts with being really honest to yourself , being OK with inner conflict and reviewing your list as often as putting fuel in your vehicle. If your take the subway or bus you pay every time you take that transportation , you don't think twice about it you just do it. Make knowing your values as important as transportation. You will only go as far in life as the fuel , tokens , cash you put toward transportation. The fuel, tokens and cash represent your values , what thoughts do you want your mind and soul to make a top priority or are OK with running on empty, it's your choice.

We are always changing , growing it's an exciting part of life . Are you values evolving with you ?

Please let me know if this has been helpful , do you have any questions, thoughts or ideas , please share. Thank you.

Health*JOY*Abundance ...Peace...Lisa

Shadow and  I, he teaches us to remove judgement and ask the question " Do I like how this feels" " What would I rather be feeling" 

  

Importance of Asking for What You Need.

 

Notice the energy , do you see it? 

  When was the last time you asked for what you needed?

Josie ( Black horse) Willie Brown and white mini.
( Blog on Values#4 will be out on Friday ) 

Back to original question , When was the last time you asked for what you wanted? 

Did you answer hardly ever or never? Do you expect those close to you to read your mind ? Well as my incredible Grandma Winstanley used to always say " the squeaky wheel gets the oil " My grandma  was  overflowing with wisdom. I miss her dearly .

 I am physically strong from the work on the ranch plus I workout with weights , cardio for my heart ( yes dance counts for cardio), meditation and yoga for my soul so I couldn't understand why I was unable to put out large hay bales by myself this year??? 

Well when you ask your self a question silently or out loud your talking to your unconscious mind , higher self and the creator . What I always find to be amazing I / you will always get an answer back , the question is are you listening or trusting in what you hear, feel, or know. 

The answer that came to me was in two different areas . I need to practice asking for help and allowing the man in my life to have his role and be needed by me. Fear has kept me from needing anyone due to the dysfunctional marriage I allowed myself to be in. The second answer that came to me was "Just ask" . I laughed so hard, last year I always prayed and asked for help from the angels and Creator,to push the round bales in. Yes I push them in by hand. I said a prayer and the 600 pound bale rolled in with little effort on my part . I laughed so hard looked to the sky with my arms opened wide and chest expanded  and yelled an enormous "Thank you " ! 

From my days of church school I remembered learning that the bible says " Ask and it is given" When I ask the folks that come to learn from the horses and I  what they want 95% of folks have no idea . This is your life , Creator gives each and everyone that freedom of free will. 

I challenge you to turn off the TV , get off the computer for 15 minutes , crack up the tunes , dance , let yourself go and ask yourself " What do I want to experience" Know the answer to that question. Ask creator for help . Be present to discover the answer ,it will be a knowing , feeling or you may hear a voice, meet a person , discover a book , meeting , CD, my blog :) , one of my workshops , hear a song on the radio that will inspire you. It's your job to take action.

In my heart and soul I know we live in a beautiful world overflowing with possibility and opportunity, your outlook , beliefs , values , vibration determine your life. 15 years ago at a Al-Anon meeting a gentleman looked me in the eyes and said you can't blame your husband for your life your an active participate in it and are an active creator of what you are living.  My world was crushed, BUT it gave me an attitude adjustment , kick in the butt to start taking responsibility for me . What a gift I was given that day!

 JUST ASK! Live! Dance ! Breath! Celebrate! YOU are alive and on this earth! 

Health*JOY*Abundance ...Peace...Lisa

WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES?

When was the last time you made a list of your                                VALUES?

Last weeks blog you learned the importance of  values and that values are the foundation of your life just like a basement or concrete slab is to a house. This week I'd like YOU to give yourself the gift of 90 minutes of time and list your Values . 

What you value determines the outcome of your life . What new years resolutions do you keep making year after year? Let 2016 be the year that you know and understand your values in order to achieve your desired outcomes. Below are two examples of making a list of what you value . I personally prefer the longer list . There is no right or wrong with this exercise , let go of all judgement .  

Now the fun begins for each category you came up with and break it down more...here's an example.

 Example Health : Blood pressure is _____, eat organic food, walk 30 minutes daily , feel awesome , size _____, have lots of energy , enjoy drinking 8-8oz of pure water daily , Know what my body likes, appreciate my body for all that it does, Know my body can be healthy, add chanting to my yoga practice, breathe deeply , stretch daily , smile and laugh ,   etc... 

Now Circle the three most important and then rank that 1 *2*3 according to most important. 

Next week I will have a complimentary  video on all of this. The client I am working with can how see that she is wanting to change her career , but  career is not one of her top three priorities which is one of the reasons for her not being able to move forward. Can you relate? I know I can .

Each week I will continue to build on this knowledge so we can have an amazing 2016 over flowing with Health*JOY*Love and yes abundance ...Peace...Lisa

Clarity on Values

           Importance of Having Clarity on Personal Values ...

Horses enjoying the afternoon sun  

Can you remember a time when you had the AH HA moment , you just got it, you saw the light  and everything fell into place beautifully.  When you fully understand what is important to you on a personal level and you create a foundation based on what you value, many opportunities  will begin to present them selves.  When your values are put on the back burner internally it begins to feel like a game of tug-a-war.  Perhaps you value staying home with your kids but your back in the work force 40 plus hours a week . When your at work you feel bad about leaving the kids, when your home you feel bad about not being able to focus at work.Conflict of what you value.

How do you figure out what you place value on in your life. First what is the meaning of a value? A value is something you put meaning to , worth , benefit on. Your value is a standard you hold your self to , principles, behaviors, ethics and morals. You  make every decision based on what you value consciously and unconsciously . When you have a conflict with what you value it normally effects your decision making ability on a unconscious level, which means consciously your probably NOT aware of "how" "why " you are making the decisions your making, due to decision being made on auto pilot. By age 10 what you value is already established . Desiring change in your life ? Lets look at what you value before we jump into belief work so you can achieve success in all areas of your life . 

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All motivation and drive is based on what you value .  A client, we'll call Sally ( not her real name) , goal for 2015 was to increase her income by 20%. Sally's income increased by 3% she was upset that she didn't attain this goal. When looking back at past income goals we noticed a pattern of financial goals not being met. What Sally discovered when working with the horses is her value wasn't on the money but on the service she offered her customers, having her weekends off , and being able to take off when ever she wanted . Sally's belief was that in order to increase sales she will have to work 7 days a week . Since Sally's beliefs is she'd have to work seven days a week , her unconscious mind will make sure Sally has that experience if her income increased . Sally's value of having time to her self is in direct conflict with what she believed to be true. Sally worked on a plan to offer better customer service and to attract potential costumers  which is what she values. Sally felt good inside with this approach and she believes if her customers are happier they will  tell their friends resulting in increased sales and Sally can work the same amount of hours. 

If you find your NOT achieving your goals it's time to look at your core Values . 
Some questions to ask yourself are 1) Are you judging yourself? 2) make a list of what you are judging
3) Take each item you wrote down and write about how it makes you feel at a heart level. 4) Remove the judgement and ask yourself were you can find purpose in what you wrote. 5) Take a deep breath in and slowly exhale and ask your self "Is this important to me ? What's important to you about________________? 

Give yourself a day , weekend and get completely in touch with every aspect of your life, Health, Fitness, Family , Relationships,Career, Spirituality , giving back,  and emotions. Create a list of what you value. Values are the foundation of our beliefs. Beliefs are connected to your values. Values are unconscious, autopilot while beliefs are more conscious . 

Make 2016 about getting to know you, own your values and beliefs look forward to living a life that brings you your hearts desire. 

Next Wednesday we'll revisit Values again, have fun discovering you!


Health*JOY*Love...Peace...Lisa

Goals , Resolutions how to , What's stopping You?

Fiona teaches us about the importance of  LOVE, starting with self 

How many of your goals or resolutions from 2015 did you accomplish? 

Here's a new approach to resolutions.

I'm always looking for an understanding on what makes some people happy , healthy, successful, dreamers, wishers or victims. The new year brings a clean slate and offers many hope of a new way.  Sometimes the new year brings frustration for all the could have's  or should have's that were never started or lasted only a few days or weeks. 

What would happen if you changed a belief for 2016? What if you figured out the reason , root of what is stopping you from achieving. I believe you'd discover all your goals and dreams being accomplished.  

Lance teaches us about moving forward in life

I encourage you in the next 10 days to: 

1) Make a list of all your resolutions you've made in the past 5 years 
2) Put a star by the ones you accomplished.
3) If you have no Stars proceed to #5
3)Make a list of all the similarities of the items stared . Similarities could include feelings , thoughts , the words you said to yourself. Is there was a main metaphor for the star items such as money, health, exercise. 
4) How can you morph those experiences to recreate your new goal? 
5) As you view your  new years resolutions which one makes you the happiest to achieve 2016.

Now the fun begins, lets figure out what emotion or belief is stopping you from having ____________.  Let this be the year that you embrace the best you and release what is holding you back.

When we are young many beliefs are planted with in us that hold no truth. If your reading this you have the ability to release old beliefs and create ones that support you. 

Perhaps you heard: 

Your bad
You'll never have money
Everyone in our family has heart disease 
Your worthless
Stop being a baby  
You'll always be fat

Shadow teaches us about removing judgement

You  could/can choose to believe and start telling yourself

I'm good
Money comes easily too me
I am healthy
I am, that I am, worthy 
My feelings matter
I love me and nourish my body with healthy food and water

6)Write the word down that you want to achieve in 2016.  Example" healthy relationship"

Remove all judgement . Life is experiences that you learn from or not.

7)What time of day daily will you spend  5-15 minutes on your goal? Write it down , it will become a daily habit like brushing your teeth , showering , eating , and breathing . 

8) Journal How your life will change when you have Example "healthy Relationship"

9)Journal about what will happen in your life if you don't . Example "healthy relationship"

10) Every day at your daily time for the next 7 days write down all the words and feelings that come to you when you think of having_________________. Example "Healthy Relationship". 

For the next 51 weeks I will be writing weekly with tips so you can accomplish your goal and I can accomplish my goal of blogging weekly . I know we can do it! 

Do you have your 5-

15 minute daily time written down. Please send me a message with comments, questions . Here's to 2016. 

Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa 

Stress: Stay present Stay focused

          Stress / Overload/ Slow down/Breath 

Asia (horse) Brings awareness to Feminine Inner Power   

 Can you recall a time that you felt completely overloaded ? Perhaps you can relate to the holiday time of year . I know I can . We celebrate Christmas and being a single parent for over 13 years, sure has its challenges especially during the holiday's . 

When the days grow colder and longer I have this need to purge my house of clutter , reorganize and paint . As I release material things I no longer need I'm able to release beliefs and emotions I have been holding onto.  What a relief and energy booster. What do you need to let go of?

This December I've repainted hallway and kitchen , plus rearranged all my kitchen cabinets,  found new homes for all the overload of dishware I accumulated this year. Where am I going with all this , how does stress fit into the equation ? 

This is the busiest time of year for the horses and I with Equine Human Connection. I wasn't aware that I was feeling overloaded until the other day when I realized  I haven't bought any gifts , I have a green Xmas tree in my living room, assisting my college son with getting school loan , house needs a new roof.  My ex-husband is a severe alcoholic our kids need my emotional support at the moment which is very draining on me . Nick my oldest child is challenged , he's so worried about his dad that he's up all night long . Nick can be a runner so when he's up I need to get up to make sure he stays in the house .  

I believe I'm handling this all very well until I get a new client  that unconsciously reminds me of my ex-husband .  I'll call client Alan not his real name . While we're working with the horses I am aware that I'm feeling very frustrated . Alan is having a challenging time with the horses due to his fear of the  horses and fear of success .

Josie reminds you to have compassion for self and others  

The herd helps Alan so much , he leaves session overwhelmed with lots of information on how to release fear and go forward into success. This is where priority and focus come in . I take lots of photos during the sessions to enable clients to continue their learning at home . Alan will pick one photo and that will be his focus to acknowledge his feelings from the session and how he can take this information and implement it into his life. 

After Alan leaves I am very confused with how challenging the session was for me . I go to the cupboard to make tea and I went to the cabinet that housed the tea three weeks ago . Went to reach for my teacup once again I went to the cabinet that it was previously in three weeks ago . 
I started to laugh , this is the important part , I was overwhelmed , on auto pilot , parts of Alan's session with the horses triggered past unpleasant  memories from when I was married. That trigger took me back to the past , when I was going for the tea , I thought tea for a moment and then my focus was gone due to my brain trying to figure out my emotions I went back to the old habit , the old routine of where the tea was in the past . This happens when your on auto-pilot.

Tea is very simple and silly , I believe it's vitally important to find humor in life . What I want you to have awareness of is when your stressed , overloaded  the mind to protect itself goes on autopilot , which takes you back to the old way of feeling and doing majority of the time . The holidays can be a very hard time of year for many people due to going back to old non-honoring patterns like my tea cupboard story . 

Here are some tips to help you stay focused , calm and know your triggers.

1) Slow down , BE purposeful about everything, what you think, eat, how you move, who you talk to, what you watch on TV , read , the company you keep etc . Being purposeful will help keep you focused.
2) Limit sugar and processed foods , they cause brain fog. 
3) Breath deeply and slowly . On your exhale let go , shake off anything that doesn't feel or think honoring.
4) Do an active activity outside , purposely breathe in fresh air and purposely exhale.
5) Know what triggers you or sets you off. When you acknowledge your triggers you give yourself permission to be in control of them.
6) Acknowledge all your strengths.
7) Limit your to do list to your top 3 priorities for the day and star your number one priority.
8) Keep your focus , thoughts on your top priorities.
9) Having a hard time focusing start saying or singing everything your thankful & grateful for in your life . Bring on the happy.
10) Know your spending budget/money management and stick to it . How creative can you be with your money? 
11) Learn or master meditation and Visualization ( Check out Youtube) 
12)  Pray throughout the day for yourself , others , community , your country , animals , and the world. 

Willie ( the pony ) teaches you how to allow opportunities into your life . Shadow is behind Willie Teaches you the importance of removing judgement , life is experiences you like or do NOT like . 

How can you bring joy into your life today ? Smiles and laughter are to your soul what water is to a plant . Nourish your soul and grow. 

Many Blessings to you ! Health*JOY*Freedom...Peace...Lisa