Focus on Solutions ( Relationships)

Put Your Energy Towards What You Want ...

Sharing food together alone

What John and Candy did to create a happier life together.

Both Candy and John were both committed to making a positive changes in there life ...Here is what they each decided to do .

Being

1) Keep there focus on What they wanted there life together to look and feel like.

    a) They made a list of all the actives they did together that they enjoyed.

    b) John made a last of all the qualities he liked about Candy and appreciated.

     c) Candy made a list of all the qualities she liked about John and aprecaited.

      d) They made a list together of all the qualities they felt were vital for them to have a healthy , happy relationship together.

John committed to making an effort :

       1) Talking to Candy every evening for 15 minutes ( skype or face time) . John would only listen and be OK with not solving anything.

         2) John would let Candy what time he would be home , what he needed ...example: alone time to settle back in, work out, no one at one, take a nap when he arrives.

        3) He would look for another job or consider going back to school.

         4) He would spend 1/2 a day on Saturday with the kids alone so Candy could have a break.

         5) Find a handy man to fix things at home for Candy.

          6) To compliment Candy on all that she was doing, send flowers once in awhile.

Candy committed to making an effort :

         1) No complaining about their situation

         2) To do activities with the kids that she enjoyed

         3) To seek help for her head aches that involve no drugs

         4) Do a trade with a friend for watching each others kids.

          5) Paint every day

          6) Let John know how much she appreciated him and what he did for her and the kids.

           7) To be OK with John needs when he arrives home.

           8) Arrange alone for her and John every other weekend

 

Focus on going forward being playful. :) 

 

In Life when we're not happy , sometimes all the thoughts go to what is wrong, which continues to create more of what you don't want. When all your energy goes toward what makes me feel good, that honors both me, you and us you'll begin to see and feel positive change. Find forgiveness and start living the relationship you want to have. Actions speak louder than words. Be sure to make this all fun...

Here's to loving and being loved!

Health...JOY...Peace...Lisa