Lisa Kuchinski
Be It Coaching/ Free Spirit Ranch

Friday, November 20, 2015

Feeling and Emotions : What are they telling you ? Are you listening?

                  Feelings and Emotions 

What do they mean? Are you really listening and hearing your inner guidance system? 


Helena( our very dear friend) and Asia - Graduation picture .

If your frustrated but the mere thought of how, why you are feeling the way you are , STOP take in a very deep breath , hold it for 4 seconds and as slowly as you can exhale and know that you are not alone. The horses and I created "Equine Human Connection"  to empower folks to understand the importance of your feelings, emotions = your inner guidance system. Do you need to come to the ranch and work with the horses to understand this all, NO , a daily commitment to YOU is where it all starts.

Ask yourself right now "What am I feeling? Where am I feeling it?" "What is the message , what do I need to know, now?" " What will I do with this knowledge"? "How can I implement this into my life"? " How does that make me feel"?

This all my seem silly but your body truly is talking to you through emotion. There are many books out there that write about dis-ease being associated to your emotions. ( Louise Hay- Heal your Life) . 

Asia teaches you about your inner power

 Here are a few examples from clients that the horses and I assist.( I've changed their names)

Connie was struggling with sadness , being lonely and her weight . The more Connie's energy was focused on sadness and being lonely the sadder she became and lonelier.  Remember we get what we focus on. What is the opposite of sad-Happy , opposite of lonely - ________. The horses and I helped Connie figure out where she felt the above emotions , in her heart and stomach. Connie's body was giving her signals trying to communicate with her but she wasn't hearing . 

 Connie was able to figure out she was eating to stuff her emotions . Connie know has the awareness  to check in with how she's feeling before she eats and ask herself a list of questions . 

1) Am I Hungry? If answer is yes , enjoy your healthy food , if  NO ask yourself more questions.
2) How is my body feeling light or heavy? Heavy normally represents a block.
3)What is this feeling telling me ? 
4) What can I do about it?
5) Am I being honoring and loving to me?

When your heart is sad and you want love it becomes a mixed signal . Every time you think  of love since it's related to sadness you kept getting the same result more sadness. Is this all confusing , yes , it is at first due to majority of people including me weren't raised to tune into what you are feeling. 
Feelings give you information on how you are responding to you, a person , situation,  experience etc. 
Horses roll modeling confusion 

Tony  normally works with the horses to brain storm business ideas. Tony newest business adventure wasn't progressing as planned due to feelings and emotions he was ignoring. As Tony attempted to work with the horses to bring work problem to a conscious level what unfolded was feelings he was putting a side regarding his girl friend. A few things in their long term relationship created red flags for him and he wasn't acknowledging what he was feeling. As my grandma would say " emotions and feelings were being swept under the rug" . You can only keep swiping dirt under the rub for so long and then it begins to build up and seep out creating dust . Hided emotions and thoughts create dust of their own which are blocks that turn into walls which will negatively affect all areas of your life.

When Tony tuned in to what he was feeling he discovered that he was frustrated , angry with his girlfriend due to she would say one thing and do something else . At first it started out being little thing, then it happened again , and again . She always told him after about her change of plans it just didn't feel good to him . Tony talked about his feelings , which brought up could he trust his girlfriend , which went to he didn't trust is ex-wife , which brought past hurts from his childhood and how he felt abandoned couldn't trust his parents . 

Can you relate this all to someplace in your life? I know I can. 

The fire department teaches you to STOP * Drop and Roll if you are on fire . To me feelings left unattended are similar to a smoldering fire which left alone will turn into a out of control blaze.When it comes to feelings I say " Stop * Feel * Acknowledge".

Connie has made a daily commitment to her feelings and know has more energy and joy than anyone I know plus she's healthy , slim and fit. 

Tony's newest business adventure is a success and he and his long term girlfriend are becoming better communicators.

Please check is with yourself a few times a day and ask yourself "How am I feeling"? " How could my relationships be more fulfilling"? "Does this feel good" "Am I honoring me"? "Is this in my best interest"? "Am I making the right decision for all concerned"? "Am I making the world a better place"? " Is this my problem or someone else s"?

Human beings have incredible instincts and an internal guidance system be sure yours in turned on , BE present , BE aware , Feel , BE thankful you are alive . We do live in a beautiful world that does get better every day , when in doubt reflect on the dark ages , We have come a long way baby.

Phlaggston and I , we have been a team for 19 years and still going strong.


Friday, November 6, 2015

To Judge or NOT to Judge is the Question?


Asia on left teaches you about inner connection and power ; Shadow teaches you the importance of removing judgement and understanding how experiences make you feel.

Can you Believe It’s November? Lots going on at Free Spirit Ranch/ Be it Coaching. Arranging fencing for winter, bringing in hay , cleaning paddocks and staining gates . Plus enjoying all this fabulous weather we have been having. May you give yourself the gift of spending time every day outside breathing fresh air and stilling the mind .

I find it interesting how trends happen. This month the trend with “Equine Human Connection “ ( coaching with the horses and I) has been on removing judgement . What does that mean , or how is that possible , sounds crazy . Yes I agree removing judgement can be a bit confusing  due to  the amount of folks being raised  with an eye for an eye thought , thinking and feeling getting even will make you feel better, having justice. When I first started considering limiting  judgement from my life it was an enormous challenge . But , Shadow ( who is a rescue horse that lives at the ranch, his photo is in the attachment above)has gently taught me the importance of removing judgement , which has allowed freedom, lightness, stillness to flow into my life. 

Shadow (Horse) and I have been introducing this thought to the folks we work with . I know from the results in my own life plus the clients I work with daily, this concept works.
When you remove judgement you set yourself free, you open yourself up to getting in touch with your instinct’s, internal guidance system, emotions and feelings. If you remove judgement you can ask yourself “Do I like how this feels” ? “Is this an experience I want to repeat”?    Does this experience honor me and the world” ?

It’s been proven through many studies that the average person has the same 60,000 thoughts a day . Yes this is called living on auto pilot . When you live on autopilot, with feelings turned off , keep doing what you’re doing, yes like a robot, you keep getting the same experiences, your predictable ,  and majority of the time begin to give up on your dreams, because you truly begin to believe what is the point . I have experienced this thought from observing my parents , family members, friends and clients. I do what I do because I know if you learn to master your thoughts, feelings and learn how to input information into the unconscious mind, a world of possibility is waiting for you. Living becomes so much fun, your health improves and joy begins to fill your life.

Everything in our world has a vibration from the smallest bug to the electricity that flows through your home . When you turn on your light switch the result you see is the light turning on. When you have a thought/feeling it’s just like that light that lights up the room, your thought/ feeling lights up, vibrates out form you . Example : I have a client Sophie she’s wanting to have more meaningful relationship with her husband . Sophie judges everything around her, Shadow ( horse) keeps all the other horses away from Sophie and pushes Sophie around gently giving her a visual of the vibration she is sending out. As Sophia complains about her husband a vibration leaves her body , keeping all the horses away from her, yes Shadow keeps pushing at her.

 I encouraged Sophie to begin to focus on how she wanted her relationship to BE. She began to tell me how she wanted their relationship to be , hope and calmness began to show on her face. Guess what happened YES the horses began to interact with her kindly.  Fiona ( Horse) came up to Sophie and gently touching her shoulder and hand. Fiona teaches us about love.  Sophie began to experience love from Fiona, she was able to communicate out loud how she wanted to give and receive love from her husband. Sophie was sending a vibration out for what she WANTED CONSCIOUSLY to give and receive. Yes her relationship is becoming more loving with her husband. Is it easy , physically yes, but mentally and emotionally it requires Sophie’s full focus and attention all the time. Sophie is getting off autopilot and becoming a conscious creator of her life. It’s similar to defrocking a computer , shocking a pool, rewiring a house, cleaning out a  closet , pulling the weeds from your garden.

  I believe in taking baby steps while learning anything new,  lots less pressure which equals success. Sophie decided to FOCUS on what she wanted to experience ,stopped judging her husband, If she became frustrated she’d acknowledge how she was feeling then ask herself “How would I rather feel “? We have a choice on how we feel about everything . I encourage each of you  beginning now to be aware of what you’re thinking , feeling and ask yourself where can I remove judgment and put the FOCUS on what I WANT !  Please let me know if this information has been helpful and how I can be of better service to you.

Opportunities : Free Spirit Ranch/Be it Coaching , Maiden Rock WI

November 13 & 20 , 2015: Group Mini work shop” Equine Human Connection”  2pm-5pm. You will leave experience with horses with a better understanding of how your thoughts , feelings effect your life and how to begin to master them. You will receive email with photos of your experience and a small written summary of your experiences with horses  . $100

November 14, 2015 : Reiki I , 10am-4pm ,people from all around the world are now taking an interest in Reiki, a form of hands on healing. Learn to balance your energy, release stress and, naturally lower your blood pressure. Promotes relaxation and over all well-being. Concentration is on wellness and releasing for physical body . Give yourself and your loved ones the gift of Reiki. Class includes certificate and manual $100.

November 15, 2015: Reiki II, 10am-4pm , Reiki II is an extension of Reiki I but with focus on understanding the emotional body , long distance healing , more in depth learning and understanding of the chakra system .
. Class includes certificate and manual $200.

December 4. 2015 : Mini workshop “ Jump Start 2016”  1pm-4pm. Are you ready to make 2016 your best year ever? Are you wanting to embrace the holidays and truly enjoy family and friends let me show you how. Weather permitting we will spent 30 minutes with horses. $150.

Dec 11. 2015 : All day Workshop “ Shine from With In”? Are you ready to experience living like never before?  10am-4:30pm. Life is so very previous , I truly believe we are here on this earth to learn how to love ourselves unconditionally  , learn to love others while, having fulfilling relationships that honor all.  When you know how to connect with yourself, know what you want , have a faith and belief system that will get you to your end goal anything is possible. Let the horses and I show you how… $250.


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Lisa Kuchinski CTC
BE it coaching/ Free Spirit Ranch

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